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You might consider pulling back from the the new relationship (and dating in general) while you work through the whether and how of ending things with your long term partner. If you think NRE might be clouding your judgment, step away from it. Of course, to some degree, it's difficult for...

Quick background-- I am already in multiple relationships, and I live alone. I date. And I'm queer, bi-ish (more than 2 genders on my dance card, so an awkward word). I spent my late teens and twenties as totally lesbian, and I will confess to some tendencies towards U-Haul insta-relationship...

Invite them on a date. Don't call it a date, but dinner for the three of you, drinks maybe. See of there's chemistry. Talk about poly in general, get their opinions. Don't push anything-- it's just the first date. If you click, do it again. And again. Date, before you start talking about...

This is just my impressions (I am jumping a little broadly to some conclusions, and could be way off). I see two things, here. One, he really doesn't seem to be doing enough to manage the complexity of being a poly-oriented person negotiating an open relationship with a monogamous partner. He...

I'm speaking as someone for whom BDSM is a regular part of my life, and has been for a while. Please please please be mindful of your boundaries! If you don't want to do something kinky, then don't. Kink is about playing around with some of the darker, twisty, turny parts of your brain, and...

That's what NRE does. At least, with me, a new crush will suddenly obliterate all other thoughts, including thoughts about work, and other partners. Nothing seems as interesting or as shiny as SHE does, in all her glorious wonder. Here's how you deal with it-- get to know her as a person...

This one is hard. My primary-ish relationship is with a man who also has a live-in girlfriend who's been part of his life for years before me. His family and the people he works with know her as his partner. He doesn't want to be out as poly with family or at work, so I'm secret from them...

I appreciate everyone's responses! I think that right now, one source of stress is that I have two new connections, with all the excitement and uncertainty of seeing how we fit, and the newness, and the shiny... But also the crush. Feeling crushed out is such an ego boost, but also so...

Verbal aggression is actually a hard limit for me. After having lived in an abusive situation, I will not tolerate someone yelling at me and thinking that it's okay. It's okay for you to decide that this is a limit for you, too.

I have been extremely successful at developing relationships with low drama people who are all respectful of each other and support me in my relationships with others. It's a real blessing. My relationships are also of varying ages, with a couple being several years old (established...

I'm going to go out on a limb and hypothesize that she means exactly what she has said-- that she has concluded that she cannot live in a monogamous relationship for the rest of her life. Based on the way you described your initial reaction, and the way you describe yourself during the...

I spent some time in only secondary relationships. It gave me the benefits of being both single and in a relationship! I got to learn some solid life skills and self sufficiency, while still having companionship, connections, and sex. But I had to be pretty committed to the idea of spending...

I don't mean lesbian, I mean love. I've been dating a boy for a bit. Well. Ok, here's the history (will keep it brief). I've had a crush on him for years. I thought he wasn't into me, so okay, but I still have loved him as a friend. We kissed in March. By April, we were starting to see...

Sexual orientation is definitely fluid. I've been lesbian most of my life, but a couple years ago, I "experimented" with a man, developed a relationship with him, and a couple others, and now am solidly "bisexual." (Well, I don't really subscribe to binary gender, as there a lot of people who...