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When I'm on a date with one partner, I generally don't like to be distracted by texts or calls from another. Mind you, I don't have a primary partner who I live with, but with four partners, I can still get a lot of messages in a day if I don't communicate to them where I am and what I'm doing...

Did you overindulge? I didn't notice. C and I just commented that you were dancin' mighty fine, hee! Aw, thanks, btw. I was feeling (uncharacteristically) overwhelmed New Year's Eve by the large party, so it was good to have you and RP and Derby and a few other special people there. So happy...

*laughs* Um.. aren't slurpy noises one of the fun parts about sticky sex? ;)

I certainly have compassion for your situation, MindfulAgony, and didn't mean to imply that it wasn't a real problem. This is why I suggested female condoms (you might want to check out this option). My point was that, for someone who feels they cannot have sexual intercourse using a male...

I've had condom-free sex with two of my male partners in the past (one of them was my husband) and it was great fun. Currently, I am not fluid-bonded with any of my male partners, and it's also great fun. I suppose I don't put a high emotional value on fluid-bonding as "the ultimate sexual...

I agree with Somegeezer. There is already another person (and another person's heart) involved, and it deserves as much respect as your heart or your partner's heart. What exactly are you worried about with regard to your upcoming wedding and to the welfare of your young child? I can assure...

Hm, I disagree with Redpepper on this one. Polyamory aside (and you don't say you ARE poly, right?), what is it that YOU want? Do you want to pursue a relationship, even if it's just fuckbuddies, with your friend? If you do, then it would be a good idea to talk to him and let him know. If...

Is there an age difference between her and the two of you?

I would be very interested in talking with you about ideas for a sexual boundary workshop, RP! (But of course you know that already.. ) :)

Good thread! This reminds me a bit of the conversation we had at the group where we talked about casual sex and poly. We ended up agreeing that people have different views on what we termed "recreational sex". Some people view sex as an activity (rather like dancing? .. I'm trying to think...

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Hm, I think you've already done tremendous things in building poly community, Redpepper, both here online and locally with the women's group. I know many people who would not be involved in or feeling comfortable with polyamory were it not for you. I think you sell yourself short. I view...

I know LB is a thoughtful little guy, and my guess is that he is, in his own time, trying to sort out the changes in your house. I don't think you need to worry too much because the fact that he ASKED you is awesome. Does he spend time with you in your room at all? When you say he can call...

Missed you guys too!! Hope you got pics.. ;)

This is absolutely brilliant, Mono.

Actually, Mono, you raise some VERY good questions about sexual self-acceptance. My gut instinct tells me that we should not be quick to judge others OR blame ourselves, because sexual preferences are such complex and highly individual needs that develop over the course of a lifetime full of...

Articles about the Poly Living conference in Seattle, Oct. 2010 http://victoriapoly101.blogspot.com/search/label/Loving%20More

Someone close to me had a threesome as a first time experience and it was great. If someone makes a conscious choice (as they did) to have an experience and everyone is on the same page there's no reason why it would be strange or unpleasant. Part of the reason why we're all talking here is...

So happy to hear you're coming Thursday night (with Mono)! Just remember that those of us who know you, love you (and your soft, squishy centre inside that loud, domineering and deliciously crunchy exterior, hee hee.. )! :D -- Gem

This is a really great post, RP. There IS a big difference between judging a situation selectively, for one's own benefit or the concern you have for others, and judging out of fear in order to blame or control other people. I know that many people, myself included, can often lump ANY kind...