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Sparklepop...thank you so incredibly much for such a detailed and thoughtful response. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Your post is FULL of remarkably helpful ideas and advice. Your are just so correct! Keeping our relationship a secret IS a choice and one that is the best for the...

Holidays, Families, Friends & Being "In the Closet" My husband and I are currently in an exclusive, 18-month "quad" relationship with another married couple. We weren't looking for it, never could have imagined a relationship like this two years ago, but it happened...and we've grown to care a...

My husband and I are part of a quad with another married couple. We avoid labels and haven't necessarily named what we have poly, but that is clearly what it is. We've yet to meet (except online) any other poly people and we're still kind of figuring things out as we go along. For professional...

Hi John - I've been meaning to reply. Sorry it took so long. There are at least the 4 groups of quads posting in this thread now. I wonder if we should move the discussion out of Gary's intro thread. Though, thank you Gary for letting us use your thread to all meet :) 15 months in to our...

Thank you so, so much. It is so helpful to hear how you have each dealt with things. And also so interesting to read how we have all set up our relationships in similar ways and also different ways. After reading your answers, my husband and I had a great talk last night that really clarified...

I was thinking a bit more about this. It isn't at all a matter of talking about this with them. It obviously needs to be done and we'll find the words to do it. We have strong communication between us about everything else, so we'll manage this too. The larger issue is just more about finding...

Thanks both Gary and MWB. It is so cool to have found two people in two separate long-term quad relationships. I had my husband read through this thread last night too. Its nice to know we aren't alone in the world. We have a lot of fun when we go out together or travel together (especially to...

Honestly, we had never even heard of polyamory. Like "marriedwithbenefits" we had "dabbled" in swinging a little bit. Just very, very mild soft swinging...a couple of encounters over the six months or so prior to meeting our friends...as a way to explore some fantasies. We actually met them on...

Count me in as another person in a quad relationship who would love to find others in a similar situation to be able to talk with. I just posted on your intro thread, Gary.

I just wanted to say hello. Our quad relationship with our best friends in the world is much newer (14 months now), but I totally relate with feeling incredibly blessed. The relationship my husband and I (married 20+ years) have with our friends (married 15+ years) is very special and I suspect...

I am in a quad relationship (two married couples) and the four of us are often in the same bed together. The two males in our group are straight and never interact sexually. They just don't. There just isn't any desire there and they don't. We all care about each other very, very deeply. That...

Wow! I'm sorry I don't have any answers, but I do truly feel your pain. I'm one year into a similar relationship. We have not had the "its okay to fall in love" conversation but the "love" word is used quite liberally and its pretty clear that all 4 of us are in this relationship very deeply...

My husband and I are also in a quad relationship that all four of us started as swingers and then all kind of just fell into this exclusive relationship somewhat accidentally. Are we swingers still? Not really because none of us are looking for other swinging partners. Are we poly? I'm not sure...