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https://davidlnoble.livejournal.com/176039.html (I think there was an error with Dagferi’s link and I don’t want you to miss this important info!)

No. Not really. For a little while he would occasionally jump back on OKC to tell me that he was going off of it -- often with a comment about how I'm the only person he finds interesting from there.... and comment a bit about the lack of prospects and how he really doesn't have time to date --...

For what it's worth, I didn't interpret what Evie and Icesong were saying as meaning that I should go fuck him, but rather that spinning a guy up in my head is unproductive. I do think you are correct about this, though. My butterflies are likely a product of my relationship anxieties -- when...

A crush? Do you remember Chameleon? I have added him (and Rapunzel) back into the Metamours and In-Laws section of my signature. So, to re-cap, Rapunzel is my nickname for Whiskers's girlfriend. They have been together for about 6 years. It is semi-long-distance because she lives about 1.5...

Sorry! I had meant to update my own blog, but instead I started a new one! I am deleting this post and have copied and pasted it into my blog! Sorry!

I’m confused — you are in a triad with your wife and another woman....so are you having sex (with your penis) with this other woman? And your wife doesn’t consider that sex? Or she does, but she is okay with it because she is also there? Or when you said triad did you really mean Vee...

I would be more direct with your mom. It sounds like she was asking for an explanation and your explanation (“I know, Z knows”) wasn’t very forthcoming. From that, she is left to draw her own conclusions....are you essentially just cheating but without the secrecy? Have you coerced Z into...

That makes sense. I think that it sounds like things have been going well. I suppose if the reason he is asking about it now is that the word “polyamory” is being used now, that would be my biggest piece of advice: communicate clearly about what these terms mean. That can be one of the hardest...

My parents were always fairly sex-positive -- or at least they tried to be. I remember when I was a teenager (maybe 16 years old?) listening to an NPR piece about sexual development and the expert said that a certain percentage of girls had had an orgasm by age 18, versus (what they expected to...

That’s great! I know what you mean about it being very freeing to talk to another Poly person “in the wild.” The way I ended up with Whiskers was that I recognized him on OKCupid. We had worked together 10 years prior, had gotten married the same year — and it seemed rather serendipitous that we...

Well, what kind of advice does he need? It sounds like they have already been doing a V type of setup, so the only change seems to be Carlos moving away. Unless Dexus and Carlos had previously been unaware that Emily was dating both of them...Is there something he’s worried about? have things...

I think you are right. Glasses and I learned so much together, but our learning experience was in a vacuum -- we weren't exposed to other ideas/skills than what we each brought to the table. If we had had the experience of negotiating sexual experiences with more people than just each other, we...

No, I'm not measuring size based on length alone. I'm referring to total volume. So, thinking of the penis as an approximate cylinder and using 3.14 as an estimate of pi, I'd say that Glasses has a length of about 4" and a total volume of about 3.5 cubic inches and Ponytail has a length of about...

I did have a nice long conversation with Ponytail about all of this. I told him the 5 areas where I had been feeling inadequate and he was very reassuring. It helps to hear that from someone who has had sex with so many people. And then last night I didn’t talk with Whiskers about *all* of my...

WTF? I really hope I am misunderstanding your comment. Because what you are saying sounds like some Grade-A bullshit. If you don’t want to be a parent, tell her that. If she decides to continue the pregnancy, you don’t have to share custody but pay your fucking child support. She isn’t doing...

A few things: I would consider it a huge violation of privacy if someone added a new person to an ongoing group chat. That’s basically giving them unfettered access to listen in on your conversations for the last ___ months/years. MrJ sounds like he has really poor judgement. If he wanted his...

Okay, so now we are at the point in the story where my fears about not being "good enough" really settled in. Because I recognized in myself a lot of the traits that people seemed to be complaining about -- the passivity and the lack of enthusiasm or tongue. In addition, the fact that I enjoy...

Okay, so picking up where I left off . . . My perception of sex was that PIV was painful at worst, fun at best, and never really mind-blowing. Again, it wasn't like I wasn't getting any sexual pleasure . . . like I said, most of our sexual activity came from Glasses pleasuring me and PIV made...

Thank you, Fuchka, PinkPig, Tinwen and Magdlyn. I think you are correct that a lot of this does come down to preferences and physical limitations, rather than skills. I guess it is hard not to conflate them in my head, since they all lead to whether the sex is "good" or "bad" for the other...

About 18 months ago, I was in a very similar situation. If you search past posts of mine, you will find all the details, but here was the gist of it: I got pregnant and it was unclear whether my husband or my boyfriend was the father. My husband did not want any more children. My boyfriend...