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I would say that when people are committed it's relatively easy to make things work. I'm the wing of a vee and spend nights real roughly half of a week. Lady and I communicate regularly. But it doesn't have to be like that. She sees her dom every week and he has only met real once. She...

It seems like there are so many layers here. I'm not going to try to address all of them. But what struck me while reading was that it seems you and Kelly have not fully worked out your burgeoning fwb ness. You are growing a friendship and that friendship has fwb undertones. While I don't read...

I'm a problem solver type but as toxic as she sounds I'd want her gone whatever the cost. Heck I'd probably run up my charge card, rent a storage unit for her for a couple months and take her stuff there and mail her the key with a polite note and end contact. Of course this presupposes...

I'm confused. I thought I saw earlier in this thread an insistence upon people being legally married. I know I saw that phrase at least once or twice.

Granted I only skimmed obey the consent and requirement. But I am in a committed primary partner style relationship. And we see other people. Check and check. Didn't read much further than that. If you want to better exclude non legally married folks from your study the questions need to be...

After reading your comments I realize I probably messed up by answering. I am not married to my partner, consider real as a "primary" by most people's definition we spend roughly half our non working time together. But he is legally and happily married to someone else. The push back you are...

I also let my partners know I'm posting here. Hence the pseudonyms as lady's job as a primary school teacher requires a certain amount of closetedness. They know I need a space sometimes to talk things out. They are welcome to read but neither of them does. It's anonymous Internet space and...

Ugh I'm so sorry you are having a rough time. And very glad you are strong enough to be honest with your partners about your desires. My previous bf is a poly bi man and he has had similar difficulties when he came out to various partners. For whatever reason people are much more threatened...

I know if real and I decide to marry. We would exchange rings. Mine would have a stone of some sort. Maybe not a diamond as I'm not big on most diamonds. His would somehow complement his existing ring prolly much like bluebird s to make a cohesive whole.

We also have a sleep guideline. We all sleep together when I'm at reals place. I have sleep issues. Lady has the magical ability to fall asleep on command or wake up and say oh that's sexy smile and snore in a 30 second span of time. So after much discussion... I get to have sex whenever Yay...

Wife I'm so very sorry things are so awful. I know when real and I got together it very much strained real and lady's marriage and they had some times where they weren't sure they would stay together. They worked it out between them. Lady and I worked things out between us. And I had to work...

Ugh. I know for me personally I need everything to be up front and honest and I have serious trust issues with anyone who chooses to engage in dishonesty in relationships. I think your insecurity is a very valid emotion as your partners actions say something about how your partner engages in...

Home from vacation. Every went beautifully. For anyone doing the same I highly suggest listening to the poly weekly podcast about vacation. If we hadn't talked through all possible pitfalls ahead of time it could have been rough. For example real hates roller coasters while lady and I could...

So far so good. We ve been doing all the harry potter stuff together which is fantastic. Real and I got naptime/alone time yesterday. Lady and real are having their alone time now while I've got the kids in the pool. It's been a lot of fun and no drama. But it's good lady and I worked out a...

here we go! I fly out tomorrow for vacation! Wish us all luck. I'll be sure to post and let folks know how things went when I get back. Here's to happy family time and hopefully no sticky issues.

I second that my roommate and I in grad school had a running joke about how her fiance was the sexiest man in the world. ... with a vacuum. .. doing dishes etc.

As someone who has dated couples here's my advice on messaging. I think 3 way messaging can lead to hassles. But real lady and I keep a 3 way thread for things that are specifically related to 3 way activities (ie vacation planning, scheduling family time. We also have direct messaging...

Yes airbnb works pretty good. Especially if you are traveling to 'hip' urban or vacation areas/college towns. Whenever I go to Austin I use it. Often you can rent a whole place to have all to yourself. For this trip we are staying on site at universal studios in Orlando with joining rooms...

I find there is a lack of good info about being the a single person involved with a someone who is married/live in/established partnered. Especially from the perspective of the single person. There's lots about couple privilege, issues with opening up etc. But not a lot about being a single wing...

Real goes through periods where he wears his ring and sometimes periods when he doesn't. I never notice. And honestly most people don't notice either. Or they don't care. Or they are too polite to say if they don't approve. I mean really how often do you check out someone's ring finger if...