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I sent G home with some extra milk and I'm planning a day for L and I to go talk and relax. I hope that we'll see a change in J soon.

I'm feeling a little overwhelmed at the thought of the long road ahead, but I want her to get better. I want J to get the care he needs. I hope that we can present it to her in a way that lets her know she is loved and supported. No more isolation.

I hope so too. God, I can't believe that he thought he could handle this alone. He was trying to honor her wishes and it put her and J in danger. We'll have to figure out how to keep someone with her and J until things get better.

Update if anyone is interested: I took the advice I received from you all and talked to G. L has PPD and has been avoiding her counselor. She is severely depressed and G has been doing everything he can, but it has gone on too long and he really needs help. I offered up some milk for J and he...

Loving Radiance, thank you for the excellent suggestions. I produce enough for both babies, but I thought offering milk might make her feel bad. We can text pictures and Send food. That sounds awesome! Thank you!

My mom helps and so does one of my friends. Like today I'm going to get my hair done and mom will keep N. N is actually fun to take care of. She's very interactive and happy. She sleeps through the night, so all I have to do is change her when I wake up to pee. She likes to go places and is an...

I'm a little worried that he'll take my step back the wrong way. I don't want him to think I'm trying to keep N away or that I'm dismissing him, but after spending extended time around J, I was sick that I hadn't said anything sooner. N is bright eyed and bushy tailed and has been since being...

L has asked me several times what I did to get my supply up and she doesn't want to do what's necessary I.e. staying hydrated, pumping, and eating enough. I'm sitting down with G tonight to discuss L and J's health. I saw them today and I'm seriously worried about J. It's worse than I thought. I...

He has apologized repeatedly over his behavior during my pregnancy and I think he's trying to overcompensate. He spends plenty of time with N, so I'm not worried about that. I'm a healthy, upbeat person and L is not so oftentimes he assumes that I can handle myself and that I don't need...

I will right away. That's a big deal. I had severe baby blues, but I can't imagine what true PPD is like.

I think that being unwilling to try everything is ridiculous. I exclusively breastfeed N I don't want to formula feed either, but I do as much as I can to keep my supply up and I pump so there are plenty of bottles. She whines that she never gets a break from J, but she doesn't want to pump. She...

He stays at my place, but sometimes he will take N to their place or bring L and J with him. I arranged for childcare to help him be at their home 4 days uninterrupted and at our home 3 days uninterrupted. L couldn't watch N and J because she can barely handle J by herself (often calls G or...

I didn't say she was interrupting N's time. I said she was interrupting while he was with me, but I couldn't know about what goes on when I'm at work (5 days a week while G takes care of N). My concern is the interruption of my time with G. With our work schedules, we don't have much time...

I am hardly neurotic. We haven't had any issues until recently. My first suggestion when L started acting strange was no more overnights or dates until she was feeling better. He comes over when he gets ready. He has a key. I recently told him that he was making things worse by coming over when...

His relationship with N isn't in any danger. He sees N every day except Saturday and Sunday. He works nights and I work days so he takes care of N while I'm at work. L and J are with him sometimes, so the kids see each other often.

So I'm supposed to throw away our relationship because there's a rough patch and we have kids? That's not very good advice. And a new mom's feelings are very important. Anyone who says otherwise has never dealt with post partum depression. I love N more than life, and I love G or N wouldn't even...

I only proceeded because he was so happy when I told him I was pregnant. He told me that they had discussed the possibility of me getting pregnant and they were both fine and happy with the prospect of having a family with me. I don't know why he would lie since I was willing to have an...

Probably, but her parents are paying their rent right now because they are struggling financially. That's why I pay for all of my own stuff and don't ask him for money. If we moved in together I'd end up paying for all of us and I wouldn't have any money left over.

I don't know what logic you're using, but getting your wife pregnant just because your girlfriend is pregnant is not smart. Newborn care is hard and new moms need support. The kids are 5 weeks apart exactly. I didn't say anything about being a better person, but I also need support and G only...

She had a strange childhood because her mom went round the twist for a time and she hasn't fully dealt with that. And she's not a mean spirited person, so I feel bad for the way I'm feeling towards her right now. I'm not feeling that great towards G either, but he can deal with sitting down and...