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But... love is not enough. This is a great article on the topic: http://markmanson.net/love

It depends on my mood at the time, really. I'm an introvert who needs a lot of space, so I couldn't imagine having two dates in less than 24 hours. And sometimes when I start a new connection, especially the first time we have sex, I need a bit of a breather before I reconnect with my partner at...

Sure, and I understand that. It's not my style, but whatever works for them :) I just find it odd to break up with someone after months of high drama, then immediately resume contact as "friends" and "let's see what happens". On the other hand, my partner's been entirely honest about the fact...

I'm someone who's only interested in casual, FWB-type arrangements and my partner is interested in serious relationships. I prefer to compartmentalize - he met my FWB once because he asked to but otherwise will probably only see him at my birthday party once a year ;) My partner prefers everyone...

Thanks! You've summed up the situation perfectly. I think one of my issues is that A and I don't have same concept of "dating". A is spending quite a bit of time with X, going away on weekends, etc. - all of which I am totally fine with - but says that they are not "back together" but "hanging...

I'm trying to find a balance between allowing A his freedom and setting my own boundaries re: X. We'll see how it turns out. Thanks for all your comments.

A little update: It looks like A has started seeing X again. A insists that they're not back together, but they are spending more and more time together, hanging out with friends, etc. I asked A to tell X that I need a no-contact period, but for whatever reason, X sent me a Christmas gift...

Lots of food for thought. Thanks everyone for your feedback!

Thank you. That is indeed the rational thing to do. A believes in the big happy poly family way of things. I do not - unless he allows me to choose who he dates

My partner (A) dated someone for about a year (X). We were never a triad and I didn't have a relationship with X, but I made an effort to be friendly and welcoming. But the more I got to know X (and listened to A about how X treats A), the less I liked X. I find X (a 30something adult) to be...