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Yikes. You clearly think there could be issues, huh? Ugghhhh

Happily, my kids are homeschooled, so there won't be any embarrassment there. My kids are pagans (as are we) and they are very confident and open minded. I think my 2 sons at home will be cool with it. They like him and he is very kind to them. My daughter is the challenge. She is 12 going on 21...

KDT - you are in YELM??? Cool! We are neighbors!

I figure it does depend - I just wondered if anyone has a source for state by state information?

I'm kind of torn.. You did have the conversation about opening your marriage beforehand. I just think that he is indeed having an affair and now wants to be able to have his cake and eat it too (so to say). I know this opinion might not be popular, but what if you were to delve into your...

I like the words from GalaGirl. I totally agree. I also agree that a break might be a good thing, but that is going to be really hard on you and you aren't at fault here. I think you might feel like you are being punished and that just isn't fair. IMO, your husband is being very childish and his...

Judgement. I hate the way people judge anything that is different from them or their beliefs as "wrong".

I have an ex that loves to cause me grief. I figure when he find out we are living in a "V" with the kids here, he will kick and scream. Could anyone direct me a site or any information on child custody precedents per state? I am in Washington state which is notoriously liberal, but I would like...

I think "coming out" is the scariest part of poly for me. I have 11 kids (8 natural) and they are all adults but the 3 left at home (16. 15 and 12) and they are going to FLIP OUT when they find out. I told my mom about our living situation and she was surprisingly ok with it after a few days of...

I am very new but would have to agree that patience is the key. People have very busy lives and sometimes when I post a question it takes a day or so to see many responses, but the responses I get are quality and heartfelt. I think the key to this group is to be here as much as you can and just...

My kids (16, 15 and 12) are gone to their bio dad's house for a week and my husband urged the other half of our "V" to come home with us over the weekend. It went super well for all 3 of us and we are doing great. We are co-sleeping for now, but when the kids get home, we will need to be in...

I am the hinge in a "V" and I am married legally to one half. Our new partner has better health insurance than my spouse and he wants to add me to his policy. Does anyone know if you are already married, can a domestic partner add you to his policy?

Our poly unit just officially got "underway" this past weekend, but right now we are co-sleeping. I am the hinge of a "V". The guys are doing really well at sharing or intimacy separately but I can imagine that in time I will want more of our king size bed to myself, and my kids (16, 15 and 12)...

Oh wow -- I have definitely been educated! LOL No - not a triad. I guess I am officially the hinge. We are starting to move forward with all of this - slowly. We have much to discuss and we have had some wonderful long talks, the three of us. I know things won't be smooth always, but right now...

I might add too that a handfasting is such a great option for the polyamorous couple. It's a binding, a commitment, but without obligation for a civil ceremony or piece of paper. My 2nd partner and I want a handfasting when the time is right. I am also ordained, so I do these for poly couples. :o

Although I am but a polywog in the poly community, I have been a practicing pagan for over 10. I learned the majority of my primary information from my pagan friends. There seem to a be a large number of more open-minded people in this pagan community and I think that the general thinking is...

Karen - also agreed. We are being respectful, loving and kind and she is seeing that all 3 adults are loving and kind to each other. I think the energy and actions are making a huge difference. I am still going to be careful of her feelings, but I am also going to be clear that this is ok and ok...

Norwegian, Agreed about my daughter. I almost think she has a crush on the new partner. She seems flirty and odd around him. We took her to lunch the other day and he was perfect with her (he has massive psych experience), saying "You know that I love you, right? And you know that I love your...

Thank you, KC. Excellent wisdom on your part. I know the kids are wondering why primary is so ok with the new man coming around and I think the kids and primary and I need to sit down. Details are not needed, but understanding that no one is "sneaking around" and that they have no worries about...

I just got "The Ethical Slut" yesterday, so that is another one! Yes, so far it seems good and it's well written. I will let you know what I think.