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Oh haha, no. That's me, just how I identify, which I can recognise is odd, given... you know... being poly. lol

Well. We sat. We talked. And my worries about things were taken on board. He understands the miscommunication, and that his "need to check in with my wife in case she needs me first" constantly was hurtful, and actually, just habitual for him, a spill over from days of their earlier agreements...

Also, I apologise. I did not mean to put anyone in a place where they might feel angry about any of this subject, and I am sorry that I have. I've read the attached file and it has been immeasurably helpful to my understanding of my own underlying hurt, as well as providing me with the distance...

I'll take a look. I think at the end of the day, I need to be a bit more blunt about how I feel, and less worried that I'm being overly sensitive or not understanding enough. I feel how I feel, and he can either address that, or he can't, and if he can't, then I have a decision to make.

So, to clarify, it's not a checking the calendar thing. It's a "I will check if she needs me first, is okay with me spending time with you, before I answer" thing. This is becoming painful to hear EVERY time I suggest some quality time for us and our relationship. I've no issue with spending...

Thanks. It's just for terms I mightn't have come across. The concept is not new to me, but it'll be handy to be able to join the dots and make sense of the abbreviations, etc.

You are needlessly torturing yourself with this. Needlessly.

Haha. Scotland

I'm struggling to see how a boundary that was never communicated can be "ignored." I think it's very unfair you are being treated as though you've done something wrong here. Don't get me wrong. I want to know as SOON as my partner harbours intent to pursue someone, and would be furious if he...

I think compersion can only be achievable by either party if they are not being disregarded, disrespected or neglected in favour of NRE. I gots me some reeeeal NRE trauma...

Oi! We're worth it ya know!

45 going on 89 here

Oh. Well you'd be safe then. I chase no one. That'd involve running 😬

Ahhh that was really where I felt I was missing something as I couldn't understand the difference between MFF and FMF. Thanks for clearing that up for my wee brain

I know a lot of poly ACE folk who would be nodding sagely right now.

I have two! Always up for some shared therapy 😆

I had a hard time being okay with feeling attracted to my younger partner to begin with, even though he is amazingly emotionally mature and has his shit together. Life has unfortunately meant that im aware how a considerable age difference can affect relationship power dynamics and how you...

Heheh I go play with swords then come back and demand cuddles and snacks.

The biggest for me has been in developing a strong sense of self awareness and problem solving in areas where I needed to grow in order to stay healthy for myself and others.

Sorry just getting used to the way this site works. I see now there has been a lot more added i couldn't see before i posted this. Hope everything works out. Polyamoury can be exhausting but man when it works its worth it 😀