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I would say it's simultaneously the hardest and most important thing I've learnt on my journey.

I can relate to that, I was in a situation at one point where processing had become the focus for an ex to the extent where I was saying "I don't have the emotional capacity for this conversation today" or "can't we just enjoy ourselves today?" and I was being told that I wasn't trying hard...

I couldn't agree with this more!! Last year I really learnt the importance of applying SSC* (used in kink) to communication. *Safe Sane and Consensual I think if/when having these conversations where two people maybe coming from very different view points it can be even more important to apply...

R.E Phone..bleurgh technology, haha. Quite agree with you, I think we've taken different things from reading the posts. I took it that he was willing, especially as they've talked about different types of poly, but if he isn't then yeah, nothing to really be done about that, love yourself...

Could very well be that he's not willing to deal with it but a lot of phrases in the original post suggests that insecurity might be playing a part in it, particularly: "I can tell it's hurting him to sacrifice the monogamy that makes him feel secure." Of course there is always the option of...

I do think GalaGirl has really hit the nail on the head but I did just want to add that going from my experience, just because he chooses a monogamous lifestyle doesn't mean you have to have a monogamous lifestyle to have a successful and harmonious relationship with him. I think it would be...

In some ways I'm probably not the best person to be offering advice as I think a lot of people here know I have made my fair share of mistakes. I just wanted to offer my perspective on things though as I think I can really relate to what you're going through. I have been with M for nearly 4...

Please can a moderator deal with this. As posted above by NYCIndie "... not a back-and-forth argument between jilted lovers or friends, which does no one any good and is against the Guidelines here." The continued use of our first names without our consent must stop or we will have no choice...

This is all I want. :) All we're asking for is our privacy to be respected. The OP is perfectly entitled to express his opinions but not in a way that violates the privacy of those he is discussing.

Oh and for clarity, I have no issue with most of the users of this forum. My dislike of LondonGuy using it for advice in our relationship was that I felt his posts were often extremely skewed and left out a lot that explains my side of the story. As such it was upsetting to hear advice, based on...

Hi, S here. I was going to refrain from responding to any of this because I am doing my very best to sort things out on my end and getting involved in this is utterly unhelpful. However, I would just like to implore people to realise that what LondonGuy has done continuously throughout out...

Well my assumption that we'd both agreed that we were past the dating stage (like I said from the other post) was to do with the fact that we've defined it as a relationship, we've been calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, and he's been telling people (including family) that he's in a...

I don't personally think I could assume non-monogamy as a starting point for a new relationship, not past the dating stage. I'd rather give that relationship care and attention to develop a strong sense of identity as a couple and foundations on which to then open up. Maybe a lot of that is down...

I think that's very possibly another communication issue on our part. It's confusing because, as I say, when we first started dating we both had pre-existing relationships, and when his didn't work out, I think it changed the dynamic a bit. He's told people about having a girlfriend, including...

LovingRadiance, thank you so much for taking the time to respond in such detail and for giving this side of things such consideration! I went to respond to the initial response, then saw the second response, so I'll try and address each issue at a time. First post: A) I do know a bit about...

I'm really hoping this post is going to be clear and articulate, because I'm not sure the thoughts I'm trying to convey really are, which is kind of why I need help in the first place. I know one of my partners is on here, so I don't want this to become a case of airing dirty laundry, but it...