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Although not to this level, I had similar thoughts when I identified as poly (and, to an extent, kinky) and noticed my matches reduce considerably. However, I agree with the majority that being upfront is best, and will save you a lot of time and emotional strain in the long-run. You may have to...

You're totally right Magdlyn in that it should be a two-way communication, but I also agree with Vicki82 that's is a reciprocal gift, if we're to label it as such; I give my sub a huge amount of time, attention, and affection. I appreciate all comments. I still feel a little subterranean...

That's a really good comment, Magdlyn, but she's actually my submissive, so it's more just her personality trait, which is totally fine as she's awesome regardless. I'm hesitant to seek reassurance, in case it comes across as needy.

Thanks for the responses. I don't believe it's because it threatens my solo-poly lifestyle, or is rooted in anything from my past. I just think it's that the cementing of the D/s dynamic has made the bond stronger for me, and now it feels like I have something bigger to lose. She's not someone...

Hi guys. Just wondering if any of the solo-poly people on here have experienced fear of loss. I have a few relationships/play-partners, but there's one in who I have particularly strong feelings for. We've just cemented a D/s dynamic, but in doing so I've noticed a fear of loss creeping up on...

So... I got a prescription from my doctor, and it really make a difference. Not worrying felt strangely liberating. It is, of course, psychological, but I feel knowing I have back-up will help. I certainly don't want it to become a necessity. I've noted your comments about not focusing on...

Many thanks for the insight. It's been eye-opening hearing from those further down a road that I've only just embarked upon.

Not at all. I appreciate any response. May I ask why it went wrong? But did anything change when you fell in love? For example, did you develop insecurities/jealousy, or want to rebalance how you spent your time across your partners? So you never hesitate to message one of your partners...

I just wanted to say thank you for writing this and helping me with my questions.

Last week I was unable to achieve an erection in the bedroom for the first time, despite being 'mentally' aroused. The girl I've started seeing was nice about it, but I could sense that if it continued she would likely cut me off, especially as sex was a key part of what she was searching for...

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have so many questions, but I’ll try to limit them :-) Is there an expectation that you discuss dates, hook-ups, or potential relationships? What do you consider as cheating? Is solo polyamory difficult when you both live with other people...

I'm going to have a crack at this despite being 'new'. :p What has polya taught you? That there's a whole new world out there and you don't have to conform to societal norms and expectations in order to be happy. What is it currently teaching you? That it's complex and although the road...

This is good advice, thank you. I'm trying not to enter into relationships with too many rules, but rather let things blossom. This is great too. Cheers. When you say you can be pushed aside, does this happen often, and has it been a big issue for you? I don't mind being secondary, but I feel...

Pretty much, although I live with housemates (I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing for solo polyamory) and I am potentially open to the possibility of a primary partner. Totally right. In monogamy, dating turns into a relationship when you agree to exclusivity, but how does a...

Do you feel free to message your partners any time, or hesitant? Is it just a case of 'Hey, are you free for a chat?' type of thing?

Hello [tips hat]. I'm relatively new to flirting with polyamory; very new to fully exploring it; and super new to this forum. As an independent introvert who likes to make multiple part-time connections with individuals, I would say I envisage a non-hierarchical (my end) solo-polyamorous...

Thanks both for the links and advice. Much appreciated. :)

Hellooooo. I'm a polyamory explorer of the male kind, fresh off many moons of failed monogamy and finally realising that my searching for that one perfect person to satisfy my every desire in a partner is likely a fruitless, perhaps naive endeavour. I've been dating polyamorous girls this year...