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Can't help but smile reading that, Bluebird! :D

Congratulations, Reverie!!! :)

Sorry to hear about the tough times. I do think you are being true to you, even if it resulted in a break-up. :( I wonder if your BF and your wife broke up too (not that they need to, just knowing how some triads are). If so, I hope she is getting support too.

HFA: HappilyFallenAngel, I suspect! :) Oh acronyms, how you're supposed to make our lives easier...

What lovely pictures!!! Congrats again! I hope the name change goes smoothly as well.

Thanks everybody for your responses again! Jack and I talked more and at this point, we're either considering either 1) him coming out to his family this weekend and giving them a week to process before I go out to see him (and seeing if they have additional questions they'd like to ask me and...

A2Poly, I'm glad to hear that things were technology related. I do hope things improve soon with Djinn still really struggling. JaneQ - Happy you're feeling better! Nycindie - I bet there would be a lot of interest in a blog written by you, if you were interested. I appreciate hearing your...

But of course. :o

Hmmm...sounds a lot like my mother-in-law, though I love her dearly. :rolleyes: Thanks for the additional thoughts. I also feel like it's Roger's choice to decide if he comes out to them or not, but it's been hard to lie to them for all these years...

I'm with Dagferi, and I usually voice support for working through difficulties. I read and re-read your post, but not once did I see that you were considering ending the relationship. Why not? Why isn't that an option for you? You two do not sound compatible. It's okay that he wants more...

I don't mean to minimize what progress Danielsen has made, nor to suggest that people here don't want to provide reassurance. And I appreciate how kind you are to everyone here, Kevin. :o I'm speaking to the pattern throughout his posts here. Again, we cannot do the deep inner growth for him...

I love this! And yes, I understand that inner security takes a long while to develop. Hence, why I went to therapy myself. Yes, any reassurance that we provide to the OP will only be temporary. Our efforts to soothe him in these times of distress will not replace him doing deep inner growth...

I also wonder that if she DID want an emotional connection, she may not feel safe sharing that with you. Not to say that you two don't have a great relationship or that she is "lying" to you, but more so that it's hard for her to even consider that as a possibility, as you're struggling with her...

Yup, I think Taylor has similar concerns that if I don't like her (or even if she says the "wrong" thing around me), I'll tell Roger to end the relationship, and he will. He has made it quite clear to her that we have no veto in our relationship. I think she'll learn to trust that as time...

First of all, I'm sorry to hear about you, Nina, and Jay. :( It's particularly awful that it ended because it sounds like Jay decided to end it for Lily's sake. Here's my gut reaction. You offered to Jay to talk if he wanted more details. He declined. I'm guessing it's still a standing offer...

Thanks for the response, Bluebird. I follow your blog on a daily basis (it's fantastic!), but I had forgotten about that awful intervention that DarkKnight's family tried to pull. Goodness, what an example of how badly things could go with family. I would hate for Jack to face that on his own...

I wonder what the purpose/function of your don't ask, don't tell policy is. I suspect that it may have contributed to your recent discomfort. Instead of more baby steps, you get a WHOOSH of finding out that she shared sex with someone else. Not surprising that you felt flooded by your emotions...

Agreed!

I don't know, nycindie, if he didn't think that the OP would be working there, isn't it his right to out himself as desired? That seems like his call. Now if he knew you'd be working there, that's a different story. I guess I'm not sure of what expectation he had around you working there...

At the time that I fell in love with Jack, Roger was also mono. Open to meeting someone else, but didn't for at least 2 more years. Roger was amazing at being supportive - to be honest, I don't know how he did it. He knew I was in love with Jaxk before I even told him, and when I did, he was...