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Hi folks, Just wanted to give an update for folks who might have been following along. We had our talk yesterday. Ultimately, what we needed and desired in a relationship didn't match up. She really needs a level of flexibility that I can't provide, and was excited about being a "secondary,"...

First, MeeraReed, thank you so much for the time and energy you took to respond to me. There is so much to respond to, and you have given me a ton to think about. I'm going to pick and choose the things that felt particularly powerful / resonant with me. I want to first say that I am so sorry...

Thank you so much for responding Bobbi. I’m mindful of the time it takes to respond, especially for a stranger. The life and structure you have created sounds wonderful. I appreciate your perspective - definitely giving me hope for what is to come with me, my boo, and other future lovers/life...

And by this, do you mean the part about how we navigate shared space, how engaged she is with family, etc?

Can you say more about the depth of commitment, especially with your solo poly primary? By commitment do you mean commitment to communication, emotional support, seeing each other regularly, etc?

This is so helpful. Thank you! The language of primary/secondary, all of that, doesn’t fully capture what I’m trying to describe. I’m pretty new to all the language. Basically, I want an anchor that would be the person I turn to for emotional intimacy, and I eventually would like to live with...

Hello! Long-time follower, first-time poster! :) Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I have been dating someone for two years now. We love each other very much and want to figure out a way to stay together for the long term. I know that I prefer hierarchy in my poly. I want a primary...