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You appear to be changing the goalposts there. This is what you said: I asked what expertise you had in the topic to make such an assertion that *no* expert in the field of abuse would be able to make assessments based upon written accounts. Not about how much information any party has. You...

I'm curious what expertise you have in abuse to make the assertion that written words cannot be taken into consideration by experts in the subject. Honestly, I doubt any evidence would shift your bias, so your opinion is duly noted and given the weight it deserves.

Because most of these are in facebook groups that aren't linkable. When I have time, I can link to a cut and pasted assessment that's on a reddit thread about this. Also Probably Poly has done a podcast that's an interesting analysis of the whole thing and probably worth listening to.

FV has written extensively about his "abusive ex" whom he identified as the co-author of MTT. He's given a talk at a national poly conference about his experiences of his abusive ex. His voice is being heard. I think you answered that in your first statement. It sounds to me like there are...

I did read the thread. I just couldn't see how you got to the conclusion you got to, which is why I asked. :rolleyes: But let's look at the quote you've emphasised in question: "Transformative justice is about acknowledging harm, witnessing those who were harmed and helping those who harmed...

Nah. Sorry, not quite following there. Which words lead you think that it's all just "a fancy way to get Franklin to apologize"? I'm genuinely interested in your wisdom on this topic.

Just curious. What evidence leads you to that conclusion?

Everything you're saying here indicates a lack of awareness of the dynamics of being in an abusive relationship. Unless your desire is to discredit Eve's claims, I don't see how any of that is useful. And given the fact that I hardly see Eve Rickert's name come up and be quoted, as compared...

I haven't said anything about hostility or people threatening. But it's exactly that kind of leaping to conclusions that demonstrates what I was talking about. There are a lot of people making assumptions in the form of "inquiring" that are minimising and victim blaming. (What it it's just...

Interesting that you're choosing to use the word "cabal". There's nothing secret or political about this group. What's happening is pretty clear. The article is about the process, not about the specific abuse. Since it asks none of us to be a judge and jury yet, I don't feel the need to see...

Yeah, I feel the same. There's also an attraction factor for me. The ethics of a person figures highly into my attraction to them. If they start behaving in a way that doesn't match up with my ethics, they start becoming a lot less attractive to me.

One hard lesson I've learned from some ex-partners is that how they behave in their relationships with other people is inevitably going to be how they behave in their relationship with me. I would not be ok with a partner being in a relationship that's being kept secret from me. If my partner...

That's kind of the point. If you were to talk about percentage of recipients overall, of course there would be more white people in SNAP because there are more white people in the country. But when you look at *the proportion* of how many people are on the programme by each race, that's where...

And an interesting thing. At Vinsanity's suggestion, I did look up Alabama. Yet again, if you are white, even in Alabama, you are far less likely to be on food stamps than if you are black, Hispanic or of other mixed heritage. The numbers were: Black: 30.4% (of black people) Mixed: 22.9% (of...

There are things you are objectively claiming that are flat out wrong.

I find it interesting that you're talking about "twisting my narrative" and not posting my sources while at the same time saying that *you suspect* x, y and z (without any sources or backup yourself) because that's what best fits your narrative. It's easy to look up the census data and other...

Nobody said that her experience wasn't true for her. The point was to look beyond that to see the larger picture. Yet white people still have higher incomes than Hispanic people. Yet the number of Hispanics who are on the Food Stamp program far outnumber the number of white people who need...

I should have clarified in my post white people- not just you. This was also taking about other posts in this thread such as MajorMerrick who was centering her experiences of perceived racism in response to a POC talking about racism. You did come to the defence of that which. It also seemed...

POC points out the institutional racism they deal with every day. Does lots of emotional labour to help educate white people about the experiences of racism that POC deal with every day and the impact that has on them. Reply from white person centres their own experiences claiming that white...

I get the sense that PurpleSun is having to constantly explain because she's not being listened to. You may not have any power in this nationwide system but that doesn't mean that you don't benefit from the fact that you're white in a society that was built by and for white people. There are all...