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Unfortunately, white privilege (which is really a legacy of white supremacy, even though many people find that term difficult to swallow) exists in all of the countries and cultures that benefitted from western colonialism. How it looks may differ from culture to culture, but it still exists...

Rewriting the Rules by Meg-John Barker. And pretty much everything else they write about relationships. Their blog is gold: https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com

So Lance met Jen *online* four months ago, she's been over to the UK to see him for one trip and now he thinks they are heading towards nesting? That in and of itself doesn't seem like very clear thinking to me.

He definitely wrote the review in a very annoying style and I would have preferred something more straightforward that points out the creepy shit they do. But regardless of the annoying style, the points still stand.

When you respond to points being made with "Well that was complete nonsense" and nothing else, I'm not sure what kind of response you would expect to that? Because clearly there was no intent to engage any of the points. And I'm not trying to convince you of anything. Boards like this are...

As I said I don't always agree with Franklin and I'm also not a fan. However, he does point out the issues with the film that I have even if it's not in a style I'd prefer.

*shrug* Then clearly there's no point in you trying to understand.

It's kinda hard to un-see the grooming and coercion once you've seen it. But I can see how it would be easily missed since a lot of these practices have been considered normal and acceptable in various poly communities. Definitely having been the unicorn in the past, it points to a lot of the...

Also: You have effectively removed any distinction between polyamory and monogamy with this definition, since in a monogamous relationship between two people, all partners are romantically connected. And your continued use of "ethically" and your insistence that all people in a polyamorous...

I never claimed that that there isn't a use in labelling things or that polyamory shouldn't be defined. I'm disputing your assertion that because Ravenheart coined the term, that she has become the authority on exactly how polyamory should be defined and labeled. The context is very much...

There's a word for that: Columbusing. Simply because Ravenheart's label stuck doesn't mean that she was the first to differentiate poly relationships from mono relationships. That's not a very good comparison to use. The theory of natural selection describes a process that happens outside of...

Given that people have been practicing polyamory for hundreds of years before Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart coined the term and Franklin Veaux decided to write a lot about it, they are not the people who define it. Franklin and Dossie both would balk at the idea that they are defining the term...

As defined by whom? By Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart? By Franklin Veaux? There are lots of people who write about ethical ways they think polyamory should be practiced, but if monogamous romantic relationships can exist without ethics being at the core of it, then so can polyamorous ones...

Given that I have seen people engage unethically in both monogamous and polyamorous relationships without those relationships losing their definition of being monogamous or polyamorous, adding "ethically" as a qualifier is not useful. It doesn't define the nature of the relationship, but rather...

I'm not 100% white, but I 100% benefit from white privilege.

After seeing it, it was a bit like 50 Shades for polyamory. It was a film full of coercion and trampling on consent.

I think these conversations are essential when discussing sexual health with a partner. I class social, mental and emotional health to be just as much my concern as physical health. One component I find is needed for these kind of conversations to go well is to go into them well informed and...

Infections and the way they are transmitted are also subject to human behaviour. When taking human behaviour into account in your own risk assessments, your assessment of the other person's behaviour is most definitely subjective. I think you misunderstand exactly how statistics work. They are...

Something to consider as you go forward- moving forward or progressing with a relationship because the other person is keen and eager to is never a sufficient enough reason to continue. Set aside how keen and eager he is for the moment and ask yourself, "Is this something I want?" You seem to be...

Yes. Pepper Mint has done a lot of work on polyamory and patriarchy. He's recently published a book about polyamory aimed at men. https://freaksexual.com/2009/11/05/nonmonogamy-for-men-the-big-picture/