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Then your need to include the word continues to lack meaning. You're creating more and more conditions for your definition then. Why not include "emotional intelligence" as well since you seem to view that as an additional requirement? I'm also interested to see what your objective definition...

Which you have yet to be able to provide a practical way to define or use since there is not universally applicable definition of "ethical", which makes your condition entirely subjective. You need to provide something more substantial in order to give your position more weight than the...

I disagree. If we follow this line of reasoning, then consent isn't necessary for poly relationships. The intent of using the word "consent" has nothing to do with injecting an air of ethics into the definition and has everything to do with injecting "consent" into the definition. They are not...

What country is that?

If you want to use the irrelevant fact that I'm a feminist to create a reason not to listen to me (probably because you are only wish to hear things that agree with and validate your actions and not to critically reflect on your own behaviour and how to do better) then by all means, carry on as...

Nope. I understood perfectly well. I'm not talking about conversations you may or may not have had with your wife. I'm talking about the attitude you have displayed very clearly towards your wife's boundaries throughout this thread. No amount of clarifying/re-explaining/rewriting the narrative...

When you posted what your wife said, your response to what she said was this: That is not a response that respects her boundaries. You are saying that she should be changing her boundaries because she doesn't know what's good for her. She doesn't have to change any beliefs because there is...

I'm thinking the better question you should ask is what action should YOU be taking to better respect her boundaries that she clearly expressed to you. Any action that falls short of respecting those boundaries will bring you closer to being an abuser. If you continue to decide that her...

Everything GalaGirl said. It really sounds like this guy is gaslighting you. There are so many phrases that suggest an abusive dynamic is emerging between you. How he is treating you *now* is going to be the best indicator of how we will treat you in the future. And at the moment, what he is...

I've transitioned from being unintentionally solo-poly to very intentionally being solo-poly to now being in a primary relationship. Like you, I also have a polycule of a mix of different kinds of relationships (including a non-romantic Very Important Person/chosen family who is always...

Yep. *As I said- brought their particular style of polyamory into public light. Coining a term is not synonymous with inventing the practice. And there is a lot of documentation of people living non-monogamously in history. The principle of the point you made is not universal and does not...

Sadly it appears that there is very little truth to the movie. Marston's granddaughter is speaking out against the film and quite clearly stating that it has twisted the facts of their family. The poly slant seems to be more made up and real. It also appears that the filmmakers did not consult...

The Ravenhearts are known for bringing their particular brand of polyamory (one rooted in pagan beliefs and values) to public light. They are not the founders of polyamory. People were practicing that relationship style long before the Ravenhearts and continue to practice polyamory with no...

Something I really like about dating while poly is that I can see how our partners treat other partners in their relationships (just like how our partners treat their friends, acquaintances, work colleagues and the server at the restaurant can be very informative.) This tells me a lot about what...

Also, you can look at Pink Therapy. They're a collective of therapists all over the UK who work with gender and sexual identity diverse clients, including poly. They've got a look up system that can help you find a therapist in your area who is specifically poly friendly...

I really recommend DK Green. He's a trans man who is also poly. He can do sessions over Skype and I've found they work just as well. I really can't recommend him enough. He takes a very holistic approach and is well versed in poly issues as well as sexuality and kink issues...