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This all great discussion folks. Please feel free to keep it going. Yeah, I have made an effort to learn more about adhd before this. I currently have no partners which is common i hear for straight men. No this is not me being jealous. We talked about lot and will have weekly check in until...

Hey there. My wife and I opened our relationship to polyamory two years ago. My wife met her partner 6 months ago and they fell in love. I had what I'd say were normal bouts of jealousy and envy, but things have been quite rewarding. That being said, my wife has adhd. We have had many talks...

Yeah thanks. She has work to do on hinge skills and I can work on flexibility. I am looking at it as an opportunity to be more clear on communication and emphasizing the importance of following through

Thanks for the good things to think about. We also have a 5-year old girl, so that is a factor. I will take in what you said, but also talk to her about being a hinge. All I really needed was, "I may stay overnight." This feels like a hinge making 2 commitments and follow through on one. It...

Hey y'all. Happy Saturday. I wanted to put this out there. Advice and opinions made with compassion are welcome. So, my wife of 18 years and I have transitioned to polyamory over the last two years, dating others, or attempting to, lol, for 5 months, only recently has anything got consistent...

Thanks. I'm actually grateful all this happened. It showed some agreements that maybe are not seeing us as well and allows me to fine tune some boundaries. We have a lot of connection but maybe not enough autonomy and protection. This is also the change that we as partners and individuals are...

Yeah thanks Kevin. The fear of my wife leaving is low. I'm just upset that I'm not past this her having sex with others yet. I was able to be fully candid with her. The fear that I'm battling now is "what if I can't handle it" It's a conflict because I like what delving into poly has given me...

Oh I d love to tell you. The quick explanation is I made incrementally small changes and I performed them consistently (not perfectly) over time. Start a conversation with me and I d be happy to tell you

Thanks I appreciate that. I was able to talk candidly with my wife. When things get hard, doubt creeps in and inget scared of what that could mean because ending the relationship is absolutely not what I want. That's some other people's go to when I speak about my difficulties. She was great...

Happy Tuesday y'all. I reflect on the past 14 months from when my wife of 17 years and I began the process of opening up. She initiated and was very kind, compassionate and communicated well. Every painful hurdle has brought us closer together. Being able to shed all armor and connect has...

Thanks, Kevin. I am not actually having any problems. Things have just been really good, and I want to celebrate. I will gather with a couple of poly friends who are really going to be happy for me. Getting into my very first poly relationship outside of my original marriage is exciting, and I...

Haha. Happy holidays to you all. Why the title? Well, it's simple. Sometimes I just want to roll my eyes at some mono family and friends at some of thier responses. When my wife was with another man with consent given, it still hurt. It was all about what was going on within me, though. But I...

Yes, thanks. You are very helpful. It's really good just to have the support here. My daughter is 5 years old.

I can have other relationships and I'm about ready to. I chose to take the last year to work on myself, which has been very beneficial. All my dad really knows is that my wife was on a date with a woman. He is refusing to talk with me about any of this, which is why he knows very little...

Thank you Daisy

I posted an update above. I forgot to mention that my dad said that he would change his mind if my wife stopped seeing other people. He still does not know that I can too. He doesn't want to talk about it. So there ya go

I would like to thank everyone for their responses. It's nice to have this community. Just an update: my dad sent my wife a message saying he doesn't hate her. Unfortunately, he also said that he thinks she is cheating, regardless if I am perfectly fine with it, and has lost respect for her. It...

Yeah my dad used the phrase that he thinks it's morally wrong and that we are headed down the wrong path. On one hand I don t want my daughter to not see her grandparents but on the other hand, they should put themselves in my shoes. If someone said to them, "you can come but your spouse isn't...

We live in a progressive area. I am not super worried about but I am preparing for it. But if he does that, it will only ostracize him from other family members

Yeah, I haven't made any decisions yet. It's hard to know what to do. Right now I m thinking about the holidays. I am not interested in going anywhere that my entire household isn't welcome