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What the Hell This roller coaster is emotionally draining!!!! Kiwi is back again. She now says she wants to take things slow and ONLY be friends with Stone and I and see if she can "handle" it. I don't know what to feel anymore. There's been sooooooooooo many ups and downs and just pure...

Very simple question.... Say there is a potential MFF Vee dynamic/relationship, whatnot....One F is monogamous and does not want the M (hinge) to have any sex whatsoever with the other F....same said mono F is okay with the other MF having other forms of intimacy, hugging, friendly kissing...

Round and Round in a circle ::deep breath:: So...as quickly as Kiwi came back into the picture, she has left again. Last I posted, I woke up to a call from Stone saying Kiwi's husband had came to her apt and found him there, made a scene, etc. I told them I was sorry that happened but that I...

Divorce So I've decided I am going to seek a divorce. A LOT has happened since last I posted....7 days of pure chaos. Highlights: -caught Stone lying about talking to Kiwi again -told him it was over, I was done and going to seek a divorce -Kiwi reached out to me and we started talking...

Just some thoughts I've been lurking on the blogs of this community and soaking up all the experiences you all have been going through. Something I came across made some dark corner of my subconscious go off.... "Codependency" It made me wonder about myself and whether I fall into this...

Back for an update ....the roller coaster continues and I feel like I just need a place to vent. When last I left off, Kiwi ended up coming over to talk with Stone and I and lay everything out on the table. Couple of things came to light, one major one being that Stone had been lying to us...

yeah, you're telling me... idk what he's thinking... ::sigh:: he's picking up more hours at work and i just found a different daycare option for us that will allow me more hours at work as well, so I'm hoping we can fit therapy into our budget now. This literally was just decided on last...

I've been on Lexapro for two months now. :-( I feel like he would end up resenting me even if I presented it in a way that made it a request and not a demand. Its also why Kiwi "let him go", because she knew if we separated and he stayed with her, that he would end up resenting her as well...

I don't have the right to say that right? to ask him to cut her from his life and focus on just me and him? It sounds like an ultimatum to me and I am against ultimatums.... advise, PLEASE :-(

I think I need to end things. He's cycling back to her again. She wants to try and be friends again. and he's cycling back. I can't keep doing this. I think I just need to end things. Its so rough. I don't know what to do. I can't control anyone's actions but my own so I don't think I can...

Money is definitely an issue Yeah, we have discussed possibly going to counseling together, but right now finances are holding us back. And i very much want to go to a poly-friendly therapist, but the closet one to us is out-of-network and charges more than we can afford to pay out of pocket. :-(

Not Handling this too well Oh jealousy.....you are something aren't ya....always creeping up to make things worse and more complicated than things need to be..... I've been finding myself feeling "off" ever since Stone and Kiwi ended things. I simply can't pinpoint why though....When Stone...

Ditto I could have written this myself! I definitely can relate. I tend to spend way too much time overthinking and over analyzing everything..... ::raises a glass:: here's to winding down for a bit....

Self-reflection & Thoughts (I've edited my Signature and gave nicknames to my husband and his oso instead of initials) So I'm pretty sure last night Stone said his last farewell to Kiwi....he said they both held each other and cried and had their last kiss. He's been an emotional mess....I...

I've tried doing a few searches and haven't really come across the kind of advice/help I'm looking for.... Without going into too much detail over my current messy situation (you can read my blog if you'd like to know details), the short version is my husband is loosing (or has lost) the other...

Back with LOTS of updates A hella lot has happened in the last two months since I last posted. A lot of lies and truths and painful talks and eye opening sh*t and cycling back and forth between S and K and S and me. She moved into her apartment Oct 1st and S spent the weekend there helping...

Realizations So.... Theres a lot I want to mention and get off my chest so hopefully I don't forget anything.... 1) I feel like I'm pushing them away by expressing myself about how I feel about this whole situation every few days.... 2) S has realized that his ultimatum was a wrong move on...

I don't disagree with you completely and I do thank you for your insight on the whole situation. I tried sending you a private message yesterday but I'm not sure if it went through or not. I'm busy at work right now but I will come back to respond when I get a free moment.

Yes on all points. They're aren't messing around. They just have fallen in love and I understand that she is well aware of it being wrong and that is one of the conflicts and guilt she has in her heart because of it....I do not believe she has a lawyer yet.... No. She is still living at home...

Reassuring a Mono GF So earlier tonight K and I were texting back and forth....and a silly teasing convo led to her asking a serious question.... She asked if I really would be okay with S being "intimate" with her.... I immediately responded "sure" (((which is the truth))) and she responded...