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I'm with the other posters here. Jack stays over fairly frequently due to the long distance nature of our relationship, but Roger knows about it in advance (usually a few weeks, though I'm sure a day would be fine). I'm okay with Taylor staying over, but she hasn't. I don't think she's...

I'll clarify my point of view. I don't want to put words into the mouths of people who believe they ARE poly or mono. I don't know their experience. I just don't think that's the ONLY way people are poly (or mono). I guess I think of it more along a continuum of: preference for...

Given the last several posts, I do wonder if the emotional drop for me is related to the long distance. For the time being, I only see Jack once every 2-3 weeks. It'd be different if we had a FWB thing going on, but he and I view each other as life partners. I prefer more entangled lives with my...

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Thanks for the nicknames - hugely helpful! Hope your Kinksgiving is amazing! :)

I think some of these posts are based on the premise that someone IS poly or mono. That it's concrete and unchangeable, almost described in a way similar to one's sexual orientation. I disagree with that concept. For me, at least, being poly is a life choice that I'm making. Right now, it makes...

I can relate to this, also dating someone who is mono and who's taken a lot of risks to be out to friends and family about us. But I don't believe that it works that way with a tipping point. When I've talked to Jack about my concerns in this area, he's made it very clear that he loves me and...

Any updates? I hope you were able to cut off contact and remain safe.

I think it is pretty likely that Monkey was the one upset, not her husband and the poly trio. Why would she tell him that otherwise, unless she wanted him to feel guilty? My mother-in-law on Roger's side is notorious for doing this. Whenever she is hurt that we didn't attend something, she...

marathon

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Hi LittleStuffies, I like hearing about your experiences - thanks for sharing them with the community. I do hope things improve with your parents. Would you consider using nicknames instead of initials? It's a bit hard to keep track of everyone, especially with the addition of your LittleBoy...

You popped into my mind today - hope you're doing well, zigzag.

Thanks for changing initials to names - much easier to understand. :) Referring to the quote above, I don't know if being "truly" poly MEANS he's capable of keeping two relationships running. I think that's a skill that it's going to have to learn - how to balance two relationships, how to...

If I were in your shoes, I would take that as evidence that it ISN'T about me at all. You did all you could do - look at all you gave to this relationship. This is all about him. This would help me to not take the break-up as personally. Just another perspective. Sorry you're hurting. :(

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Would you be willing to use nicknames for the people in your life, instead of initials? It's difficult to follow with just letters. You should be able to edit your post, assuming it's less than 24 hours (I believe!).

Maybe you can get involved more with the LGBTQ community? Volunteering or advocacy work, meetups, etc.? That community tends to have more variety/openness when it comes to the shape relationships take. Do you live in a conservative area, and thus, you have a smaller pool of poly-friendly...

I usually am in a bit of a funk after I leave Jack's place or Jack leaves mine. The drive home is usually helpful, but if he leaves from my place, it can be hard. I can get pretty bummed. I've asked Roger for some space after those times, for me to be sad about missing Jack and to readjust my...