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    Love you but...

    What do you do when you love someone you CAN'T have a relationship with? UGH. Can't as in HIS life doesn't allow for additional relationships and he's married. Fucking bloody hell. Its not like I can avoid him either :(
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    Soundproofing

    This came up in another thread and I thought I'd make it its own thread since I have this issue (but unrelated to poly) in that my bedroom is directly above my grown daughter's room. Neither of us want to hear the other getting intimate, but apparently its much louder on her end than it is on...
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    The "How are you doing?" thread? I seemed to have lost it :eek:
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    Grey's Anatomy?

    Anyone else see the poly overtones between Callie, Arizona and Mark?
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    Something More

    Something More The past 4 months have been an incredibly gut-wrenching, painful journey for me. There are fractures in what I thought was a solid, unbreakable marriage. My sex drive is at an all-time low. I've learned some things. though. I've learned that I have a LOT of work to do on...
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    Primal Scream

    Insert your primal scream in this thread. For those moments when you can't discuss, are frustrated beyond belief and you are not in an appropriate place to scream out loud. :eek:
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    Poly Friendly Therapists/Councellors?

    Anyone know of any in the Lower Mainland? Preferrably one who is accredited - and I can claim on my extended health benefits. Thanks!
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    Social Cues

    Its been so long since I"ve been involved in dating and I"ve NEVER dated a woman - so my social cues are off. Someone calls me "sugar" and "sweet cheeks" and I don't know if that's just their way of talking or if its an indication of interest. On the other hand - there's this gorgeous woman I...
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    What do I do?

    I feel like I'm in "Lemony Snicket's A Series of Unfortunate Events" Something happened Thursday - which is not my story to tell. Reconnect time was needed after Thursday. Friday - I had a day off - no kids around - W and I had the opportunity for much needed reconnect time. It was a...
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    I need a Derby Name!!!

    Anyone have suggestions for me? :D
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    How do you know?

    For the first time in our marriage - there are things he won't tell me, and I'm sad about that. I had a shower with him - and as I got out I turned and said something.. and he stopped the conversation - because of something he was asked not to share with me. It made me sad that he has to...
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    Your partner's in pain.. what to do..?

    What do you do when your partner is in pain, you have the power to end that pain, but to do so would cause you pain? Either way, I lose. My husband is in enough pain that it is affecting OUR relationship, but to end the paIn means I would hurt and possibly affect our relationship. So what the...
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    Amusing links....

    Need a giggle??? Post your amusing link here... this is my first one :) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GgrX7uOZqHI
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    Creating the relationship you want

    I've been thinking about this a lot lately. We walked into this totally blindfolded (amazing how you can think you're open, only to discover you still had blinders on) without having discussions about what poly means to us, what we want, and where we want to go. So when he found someone...
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    To look or not to look....

    That is the $64,000 question. I pushed for poly. He's the one getting to know someone. A situation happened over the weekend that put me through the wringer. Its all working itself out - but it pointed out to ME a few things I need to work on myself. I haven't been actively looking for...
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    Whose secondary comes first?

    Odd thought. You are with your primary partner (You and PP) You have a secondary who has a primary partner (S & P2) S's primary has a secondary (S2) YOu are madly in love with S, P2 is madly in love with S2 Circumstances happen that S2 has to move a significant distance away. P2 wants...
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    If someone's dating or WANTS to date your spouse

    Do you want to know before hand? How would you feel if they came up to you (or emailed you or phoned you) and said "BTW, I really like your spouse -and want to get to know him/her - I think that he/she and I have a great connection" Or would you prefer to wait until the spouse and new amour...
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    Meeting people online

    The problem with meeting people from an online source is that when you need to chatter online about things you're feeling - they see. And you may not be ready for them to see until you've worked it out (at which point it may be irrelevant) and part of the working out process is posting to get...
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    I'm crushing on someone

    I enjoy when I have crushes - I've had them before. My husband is amused by it :D Its good. Its fun. :p I look forward to when we connect. I get butterflies and giggly. I love crushes :D
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    Bright Shiny New Toy

    Wow! I have a bright shiny new toy... sitting in my closet... waiting to be played with. That's what the decision to explore poly relationships feels like. I want to play with my shiny new toy - only it requires friends - its not a toy I can play with by myself. So I take it out of the...
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