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I'm having a discussion on a facebook group with some people who assert that monogamy is not biologically innate. Since I know there are many of you here who are monogamous partners of people who are poly I thought this might be a good way to back up my assertion that monogamy and non monogamy...

I've seen it discussed quite a lot here that people want to meet their partner's prospective love interests before things go further than friendship to be able to alert their partner to possible negative influences (cowboys/girls ect). It got me thinking that this isn't something that single...

I'm interested in knowing what you all look like in person. I'm wondering how much different it is to the image I have of you in my head. I don't look anything like my avatar. :D I'm 5'4" (or 5'5" on a good day) I weigh about 135lbs. I have really muscular legs. I'm quite chesty with a short...

http://mingle2.com/dating/unicorn I thought this was funny and wanted to share. :D

I've been noticing that there are an awful lot of poly-connected people in the military. Do you think it's because those in the military and those who are in relationship with them are "taught" to be more self sufficient rather than co-dependant? You kind of have to learn who you are and what...

This has been an observation of mine both here on line and in my local poly community. I have noticed that there are a couple of different approaches to poly. One way of looking at poly is as a way to grow "family" the other approach seems to be to let relationships with individuals develop as...

Welcome to my new blog. The old one with the nervous title just doesn't seem fitting anymore. These days peace, joy and love seem like a much more apt way to describe the way I'm feeling. I'm coming to the end of quite a turbulent year. This time last year I don't think that I could have...

I'm having trouble around my space and feeling comfortable in it. My husband's girlfriend had a pretty shitty night on Friday and didn't want to be alone on Saturday and so I told my husband that it would be fine to invite her along to RP's show on Saturday night and I didn't mind her staying...

My husband once told me a quote (I'm not sure where he got it from) that poly means never having to say no. I disagree. To me poly means taking into account more and more people's feelings and boundaries before saying yes. I think that being single means never having to say no. As soon as you're...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ajPvCQjatW4&feature=fvst AND I'M NOT A SPAMMER!!!:D

Redpeppers shirt at pride parade today got me thinking, what labels do you use to describe yourself? Her shirt was covered with a lot of different discriptions of who she is and how she identifies. People are pretty complex. So here's my list: Polyamorous Bisexual Butterscotch Ripple (as...

I thought that this would be a good place to ask though since poly peeps seem to have a little more experience with relationships in general and might be able to help me out here. I'm wondering at what point do you just give up hope in a friendship, cut ties and move on? I have a friend who was...

I've just been musing to myself today how interesting it is to be involved in the growth of 2 tribes (for lack of a better term). I caught myself thinking at one point that I might have to chose where to belong at some point but the truth is that I belong both places. I just belong in different...

I've been thinking a lot about time with people over the past couple of weeks. It's true that the love for one person does not diminish the love for another, but time is another matter altogether. There are only so many hours in a day. So how do you make it work to make everyone feel special and...

So a little bit of back story here. My husband is away for work and has been since October. He's recently met someone who he gets along with well where he is. They've asked for my permission to get to know each other better. The whole being asked for permission thing throws me for a loop a bit...

So this is post #100. I finally made it :D -Derby

So what's on your bucket list? (one item at a time) I'd love to go to Bora Bora

So a few months ago my girlfriend and I had a discussion that we would make better friends than lovers as we aren't looking for the same thing. Up until this point things have been just fine. We hang out and have a good time together. Being that we live in a pretty small town we were...

I don't really know how to start this. My husband and I have been together for 15 years. I pursued him quite actively. In the beginning of our relationship, we were "friends with benefits." He would frequently talk to me during that time about how he wanted a girlfriend, that no one would ever...