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it's been a while since I posted, poly life was going along pretty uneventfully. But eventually something always seems to happen and I am in need of some perspective. My boyfriends other partner recently broke up with him and he is completely heartbroken. He regarded her his primary (even...

So, my BF and I share a hobby. Actually he's had this hobby for a long time and introduced me to it, and I am still in the NRE stage with this hobby where I try to learn stuff, acquire skills and read a lot about it. I joined an online forum about it. After browsing for a while I noticed BF's...

Nonmonogamy has this tendency to shine a big bright spotlight on things that are not working or functioning very well, either in relationships or in the individuals who are in those relationships. For me, the biggest issue that keeps popping up is my insecurities, my need for reassurance and...

I had one relationship with a guy I met on OKC who said right at the beginning when we started messaging: I never heard of this poly stuff, hm sounds interesting, maybe it's for me, hm yeah ok let's try it. I ended up dating him for 9 months or so, and during that time it became increasingly...

It's been a while since I posted. Poly life has been mostly good and uneventful. However, this recently changed and now I am in need of advice, feedback, and a place to hash out my thoughts about something I can't really get a grip on. A little background: I am a firm believer in 'keeping...

My bf C and I broke up last summer. The full story is in my blog, the short version is this: I was his only partner for over a year, then he met someone who slowly became his primary, I felt neglected (and I was), the dynamic of our relationship changed so much that it finallly became too hard...

A little background: I never dated much. I met my husband when I was very young. When I started dating a couple of years ago, I had a very practical approach: usually already on the first date, I would tell the guy whether or not I was attracted to him and could see something more than...

Background: my boyfriend C and I have been together vor 18 months. For almost all of that time he has been single (he was dating someone when we met, but she broke up with him after 1 month). We had a very intense relationship from the start, where we would see each other as often as the...

I could use some perspective.. sorry if the story is long, the emotions all seem so complicated that they need a lot of explaining. A little background: my BF Curlz and I have been together for 14 months. For most of this I've been his only partner (he was with someone when I met him, but she...

Hi Mods, can this thread http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=33337 be moved to the General Discussions area? I accidentally posted in the wrong forum, sorry.

I was browsing profiles on a poly dating site and noticed something. The way most guys describe their relation to poly really turned me off. It seemd like most profiles started with something 'we' related: my wife and I have decided to open up our relationship / we're happily married but feel...

So, something happened last night that I'm still thinking about today. I was out by myself, had a couple of drinks, and was texting my BF Curlz. He lives in another city, I haven't seen him for a week, will see him this weekend, I was missing him. The texting got a little sexy and we were...

My husband and I have been together for almost 2 decades, opened our marriage a couple of years ago. Right now we seem to have a reached (after a particularly drama-filled summer) a new place of relative calm, where we both have our other relationships and also get along really well together...

background: my husbands GF cheated on him. It looked like they were to break up, but they're back together, trying to make it work. I did not really trust her before this happened, and of course, the cheating did not help :p anyway, tonight I'm going to an event where both she and my husband...

So, it was this thread :http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=26296 and the turn that it took that got me thinking. (short version, if you dont feel like clicking: my BF expressed interest in one of my close friends, I felt weird about it, wanted to set a boundary, but thanks to some...

So, my boyfriend C met one of my close friends the other day and today sends me an email saying that he really liked her and asking me how I would feel if he 'got to know her better'. I replied and said friendship would be perfectly fine, dating would feel like an awkward mixing of connections...

This thread by starrynite101 about dating and particularly this quote about restlessness and waiting for texts made me think. It's something that I've been thinking about a lot lately: the influence of phones, email, social media etc on my dating life.. and especially, the negative aspects of...

I've written about it in other threads, but here's the background: My husband has been with his GF for about a year. I had issues with her from the very beginning because she has another BF in another city who does not know about her relationship with my husband. Basically, she was / is living 2...

been thinking a lot about this lately and wonder what other people's views are.. could use some help dealing with my husbands pain and jealousy. I have a 'steady' relationship with my boyfriend. My husband has met him casually a couple of times, and this weekend they met for a longer 'date' and...

so, tonight my boyfriend is going on a date and I'm freaking out. a little background... We've been together since January and it's going great. I have no reasons to doubt his sincerity, his commitment or his love. In fact if I would mention all the reasons why I can feel secure in this...