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  1. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    *shudders* I don't see myself ever having a spider as a pet. lol. I'm usually the one scaring the crap out of everyone in the house when I suddenly jump up, scream bloody murder, and do what looks like a kicking chicken dance through the house LOL. When I do that everyone goes, "Yep, she must...
  2. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    LMAO! It did that to me as well the first time I saw it. I'm petrified of spiders, but I found it hilarious and wanted to give others the hilarity of nearly smacking their laptops as I did. lol. Kevin, thank you for the reply. I'm glad someone realizes that the kids are important, just as much...
  3. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    Long time no see. Hope you all are doing well. I've been quite busy with the 5 kids and my own school studies. Well, here is an update. She had been doing much better and hadn't picked a fight for 2 months over the phone. While my hubby was home, she only lost it once, but was iffy a few times...
  4. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    Kevin, that is some very sound and wonderful advice. He and I both have tried to walk away so she can calm down. We have tried to tell her to go relax a bit before we continue the convo, because it is not an environment we want the kids to be in. All she does is explode more and says "No! I'm...
  5. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    She and I get along fabulously. We don't bicker or argue, except when I'm having to defend my hubby when he is here because of her irrational explosions at him. She and I communicate about everything and I feel happy and satisfied with her. The absences are okay, not an issue. We got news...
  6. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    We have gotten her meds tweaked and she has done significantly better. She still has issues with getting "twitchy," as she calls it, where she gets on the verge of feeling like she is going to have an explosion. Usually she does great until the kids come home from school. Then she gets on edge...
  7. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    I don't mind questions. Feel free to ask them. If they can help with gaining insight for advice and help me to gain insight by reading over and seeing different ideas, then, by all means, I am for it. My ultimate goal is to make this a successful triad. I will do my utmost best to answer every...
  8. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    He has no choice but to be away from home for that length of time. It's his job. He has been trying to get them to let him come home every 3 weeks, or at least to give him an extra week off for every 3 weeks he works, with no luck, so far. He does usually, when we are lucky, get to come home...
  9. AilaLynn

    Semantics / Language is Fluid

    Lmao! I LOVE those!:D
  10. AilaLynn

    Semantics / Language is Fluid

    Marcus, I, too, agree with your post. A lot of people do use words incorrectly. I, also, find language interesting, but I never studied the linguistics aspects of them (just speaking foreign ones lol). I prefer, however, to read body language and micro-expressions. Because language is a form of...
  11. AilaLynn

    Coming out

    I can understand the dilemmas I have read from some of those here. I'm facing somewhat of the same issues. My hubby and I have told his family and mine. At first, his family was going to "take me in and help me divorce him, \ because I don't need to be treated that way," yada, yada, yada...
  12. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    That would be great to know beforehand. We have been taking care of the kids all this year financially. I don't know if that will help. But yes, I can pm you.
  13. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    She was the one who decided to leave him for the third time. She has some chemical imbalance issues that made her and makes her extremely difficult to live with. She becomes irrational and explodes constantly, which is why she is on medication now. I pointed out to her that she needed this so...
  14. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    I never quite looked at it that way. :( It saddens me to do so, though, because I truly want something great and fulfilling... probably because I care for everyone so much. I don't want her to go at all. Even if she did decide to not be involved with us, or me, we would get her a place nearby at...
  15. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    No, I do not see the power dynamic here. Please elaborate. If it pertains to my husband's idea for getting custody, that was his idea, his plan, not mine. The only thing I am attempting to do is improve the communication between everyone, and ensure that all involved can be happy. She has...
  16. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    Magdlyn, she was granted custody, even though she left and fled to another state across country, because, in most cases, if the mom can't be proven unfit, the kids are given to her. In this case, when she left, and my husband fought her for custody, the court said that the kids had been with her...
  17. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    My husband and I both wanted all his kids here with us, but we couldn't take her kids from her because we couldn't prove her unfit. We had both agreed to do whatever it took to keep her kids here with us. We both agreed to move her in with us. But we had planned originally to get her a place of...
  18. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    Thank you for your responses. Gala, you are right on the nose with your understanding of it. I was afraid it was something too complicated for most to get. I never thought of it from the aspect as being complicated to feel, but not complicated behavior. That helps make things easier to look at...
  19. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    It would be nice if it were that easy. lol. As I said, he does care for her somewhat. He just thinks he has to be involved with her in order to keep her there because that is what she wants. If she left, then I would no longer have my companion, the help, or my step-kids with me, because she...
  20. AilaLynn

    New to it all

    Hello everyone! I'm Lynn. I am new to the whole polyamory thing. My husband and I have been married for 3 years now. To start with, I have always been open-minded about a lot of things. I have been bisexual for as long as I can remember and never understood why one couldn't be happy with more...
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