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If you can honestly tell your wife that your desire for additional relationships and your feelings for other women have nothing to do with your wife and anything that's lacking between you two, then hopefully that makes it easier to understand that her walking away (if it comes to that) is not a...

It would depend entirely on how much this other person intruded into my life. What would be unacceptable to me if I was expecting a monogamous relationship would be if this other person took vacations with my partner, if the two of them went out to dinner or other events without me if I was...

There are monogamous people who would never think of being with anyone else. There are also monogamous people who might think about it, but only in an abstract, fantasy, kind of way, but genuinely do not want the reality of it. Understanding where she is coming from may help you to find the...

I already answered you this at home but let me just take this opportunity to expand on that. I always think of these things long after the after the conversation is over and since talking has never really worked for us maybe text will be better. When you ask me if I'm okay with something or if...

You look familiar.

Right on schedule, we had our fight last night. The evening started off well enough. Went to dinner and had sushi and light conversation. He mentioned that Misty was sitting in on one of his classes and noticed that some guy was definitely crushing on him. I let that pass without comment but...

Is anyone wondering how deep the rabit hole goes? Well so much for the peaceful week. Oh, there's no fight or anything. Yet. But these lulls in the anxiety make me want to let my guard down and be all loving and mooshy. C is very uncomfortable with that. He says I get this look on my face...

I know that's not what you meant but it's still true. I've been dating basically the same guy in every relationship I've had. Even though they all seem "different" at first I can give a pretty accurate profile of a guy just based on the fact that there's a mutual attraction and we seem to be...

Yeah, I probably just shouldn't be in a relationship at all. Things have been so calm at home since this weekend. C has been loving and attentive, he calls when he's on his way home from work to see if I need anything and he brought me dinner the other night from our favorite Mexican place...

I see no need for you to change your Penguin. It's not likely to get confusing as I lurk more than I post and I'm not sure I'll be here much longer anyway. Glad to hear things are going so well for all of you!

That's funny that you say that BlackUnicorn, C and I were talking about serial monogamy this past weekend at the lake. I said that I noticed a pattern (well, not much of a pattern because it's only based on two relationships that have come to fruition but w/e) where he would be extremely...

I can't help at all with the jealousy part. C was not at all gentle or patient and I was pretty much left to myself to work through things while he went out with other people and I wouldn't recommend that to anyone. But I can say it gets easier to watch your partner go out once you've had a...

I don't know how proud I'll be of any part of this relationship in 10 or 20 years. I don't know how proud I"ll be of the email I sent her yesterday but it sure did make me feel better. My relationship with C is almost over and I can feel myself starting to disengage from him already. I'll...

I keep hearing, "go at the pace of the person who is struggling the most". Up until just recently I was the one struggling the most and was never afforded the luxury of having my struggles catered to. So why does Misty get treated with kid gloves? I'm really not sure how to respond to what...

Am I the only one who hears the name Lobster and hears Phoebe Buffet from Friends telling that story about how the lobsters mate for life and old lobster couple walk around the tank holding claws? Yeah, probably. Sorry for the derail.

I don't have anything helpful to say but wanted to send sympathetic thoughts your way. That really sucks. Can you talk to this woman and ask what her reasoning is? And what about your boyfriend, is he really okay with you being left out and not seeing you as often?

I'm not quite sure why the phone call bothered me last night. Maybe I should have just said that. "I'm upset that you talked to her for so long but I don't know why so just let me go to sleep and we'll talk about it tomorrow." That wouldn't have been so hard, would it? But for whatever...

2B, you've been with this guy for 4 months and he's just now telling you he's polyamorous?! Unless he discovered this about himself yesterday, this is unconscionable to me. If it took him this long to mention something so fundamentally important, I'd be wondering just what else he neglected to...

No. I have a whole list of excuses: It's a little more than I'm willing to spend and I'm not really sure I'd be comfortable there. I don't actually live in Atlanta yet, I'm about two hours away although I commute for work. The thought of going all the way down to the airport sounds like a...

Sometimes I just need somewhere to vent and navel-gaze and post self-indulgent musings and whinging that don't necessarily deserve responses and certainly not their own thread. So I have this weird thing about what I'll call "other people cooties". It's probably best described as my aversion...