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I live with my husband in one country with kids and pets and a partridge in a pear tree. I see him every day unless I'm on a work trip. My sweetie lives in another country and I make it a point to get up there for 4-5 days (including travel time, which is 4-8 hours each way depending on...

if the boundaries aren't deal-breakers in and of themselves, you're setting yourselves up for some really unattractive rules-lawyering by setting a punishment for breaking the rule in advance. Firstly, you're planning to have your rules broken, which is never a good baseline to start from. And...

I have a similar problem -- really can't be out to certain segments of my life, and yet really want to be. Partially, I hate feeling like someone I care about is a dirty little secret, and I hate feeling like I can't be candid with my friends and have to hide things from them (It hits some big...

Legally, if you're married to an opposite sex spouse, in most states the spouse is considered the legal parent of the child even if they're not the biological parent of the child. Overcoming that presumption can take anything from a genetic test to a law suit, depending on the state law. So...

PolyInPractice: I was completely open about my relationships when I was younger -- all my friends knew, my family knew, my mom used to go to events with my boyfriend and girlfriend. It was great. Now I have a "real career", where I live with my colleagues and have limited ability to interact...

No, and no. You cannot have a domestic partner if you're married, and you can't add her to your insurance unless she fits the definition of a dependent on your policy -- likely a child or step-child under the age of 26, or permanently and totally disabled. LLCs are a way of purchasing coverage...

I'm doing it currently. It's working out well for us, but I think that's because of the special situation. Specifically, that ex and I broke up because of outside influences in the relationship (mainly, issues between me and another partner) and not because there was anything not working in...

We've had three kids and have had one each way -- one at home, one at a free-standing birth center and one in the hospital. We've worked with midwives each time -- our hospital birth wasn't a planned hospital birth; we'd hoped to have him at home -- and have actually helped them expand their...

To steal a line from Tom Robbins, "Marriage isn't a synonym for monogamy any more than monogamy is a synonym for ideal love." I'm married. I married my husband because I chose to privilege that relationship in certain ways -- not to make it 'better' than any other relationships I have, but to...

One thing that has helped us is to normalize the whole thing. LOTS of couples spend time apart for various family, work or friendship reasons. Maybe your partner isn't doing the same things while she's away, but the 'away' part is perfectly normal for a lot of families. It's been helpful for...

I figured I should probably properly introduce myself before actually posting questions! My name is Diane. I'm in my mid-30s, and have been married for ten years. I've been having open relationships since I was very young, but my husband and I both went through bad breakups when I was pregnant...