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Do you think that independence (always enjoying being alone) is obligatory for being poly? In other words, what do you think the relationship is between polyamory and independence? If you are dependent, what do you do when you are alone?

We discussed this yesterday. He told me that I'm very very important to him. He will never leave me. If I'm hurt, he can back off from anyone, even those who are the hottest and most intelligent. He held me and said, "I want to include you more in my life. I don't feel we spent enough time...

Have I ever said that I don't want to be poly? Could you please answer after you know better the story? As I said, I am in a relationship with Bex as well. She is one of the multiple partners I currently date. I actually date more people than Ash and Bex do, and I enjoy this freedom. I don't...

Thank you very much. It's really easy to end a two-year relationship. That's really helpful. :rolleyes:

I read the article "Jealousy Management for Love and Profit or, how to fix a broken refrigerator" from the website you gave me. It's really a great article. But there is something unclear for me about the period of working on my own problems. I'm quite worried that the fixing time will be too...

I agree.

So what do you think I should do?

Exactly.

That's right. It's not healthy to expect "equal." By say "the same" I mean the same quantity, not necessarily the same aspect. Actually, I asked Bex to spend more time with me because it's easier for me to have compersion for people who are close to me. (For example, I have a brother and sister...

Thank you very much. This is very useful for me to improve in polyamory. I asked Bex to meet me, instead of meeting Ash for several days in another country, so that I can get closer to her. Then I will feel less left out when we are us three. I feel bad because I'm dependent on Ash's...

So what do you think I should do now? Break up with Ash, while he agreed to be patient, so that Bex feels equal?

Then she will decide.

Ash id naturally poly. He never feels jealous. He thought he should do whatever he wanted, even if I felt bad, because he was afraid if he did as I wanted, I would develop a "monogamous illusion." I would say he wasn't patient because of his bad experience before. (After six years of patiently...

Ash and I have together for two years. We are very much in love, but there are many fights between us. Ash and Bex started to date six months ago when I was in another country. I was not ready for Ash to meet others at that moment, but he forced it, regardless of how hurt I was. After one...

Ash is a guy who has been with me for two years. Bex is a girl he met half a year ago. I'm in a relationship with Bex too, but she is closer to Ash than me. I'm hurt when they get intimate and when he shows that he likes her. Should I ask him to back off? If so, I feel very guilty and pressed to...

Yes, about dating others. But I didn't need to date other people. If he said I couldn't date others, I would have stopped. I did it only because I didn't want to focus only on him and develop a monogamous illusion. I agree that he struggled. I did too. We both did.

Thank you:)

This is the first time I write something in a polyamorous forum. I really would like to share my story with you, Here it is. (Maybe the way I describe it makes it seem that we only fight, but we are very in love.) At the beginning, even if I was in already a relationship with a boyfriend who I...