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  1. Terra

    Is this poly FAIL?

    GalaGirl, I guess I left out some information in my OP. The night I broke off the affair, I told my husband everything. His initial reaction was anger, followed by guilt, as he felt his long term physical neglect had left me vulnerable. I do not hold him responsible for my choices, as I could...
  2. Terra

    Is this poly FAIL?

    My husband and I have been together for 21 years, and married for 19. Our relationship became progressively sexless about 15 years ago, though I did not wish it to be so. We had therapy, had bouts where he tried to physically connect again, but it never lasted long. We began drifting further...
  3. Terra

    Am I being unfair about gifts?

    My husband and I have been polyamorous for almost a year. For the most part, things run fairly smoothly. He has one stable partner, who, unfortunately, lives far enough away that they are only able to see each other every couple of months, but keep up via phone, texts, internet, etc. My...
  4. Terra

    What is this "lifestyle" you mention?

    Oops! I realized that I used the term "lifestyle" today when making a post. I'm super new here- my husband and I decided on what we called "an open marriage" a couple of months ago. After doing a lot of reading and pondering, I decided that what I really meant by "open marriage" and who I...
  5. Terra

    Talking to parents about the polyamory lifestyle

    ncyindie- yes, she knew about the affair. In fact, she figured it out before I ever told her, as she knew him already and picked up on the vibes. She's always been hyper-intuitive about me and my life, and so I guess I figured she'd somehow mysteriously know anyway. What you suggested I tell...
  6. Terra

    I had a newbie meltdown this weekend

    Wow. Seriously, polyamory does not work without a LOT of open communication, and it was unfair for Dion to attempt to spring a surprise threesome on you both, without talking to you about it in advance, without letting you have a chance to get to know Aster first. He obviously had this as his...
  7. Terra

    Talking to parents about the polyamory lifestyle

    Perhaps this should go into the "New to polyamory" section, but I'm throwing it out here. I am very close to my parents. My mother literally lives a mile down the road from us and is very active with our lives and with caring for our daughter. We both work, and she has always been very...
  8. Terra

    Polyamory's Image Problem

    I'm brand new to polyamory and still trying to find my way, so I'm not sure I'm really qualified to weigh in. But, just intuitively, the one difference that stands out is the element of exploitation involved with Mormon polygamy and with pimping. Teenage girls who are forced into marriages and...
  9. Terra

    New to all of this, struggling

    Thanks for the feedback! Anneintherain, you bring up an excellent point. I am just assuming that the old boyfriend and his girlfriend agreed to date as a couple only, but I have no way of knowing this. He might be just fine with her contacting me individually. I think I'll seek...
  10. Terra

    New to all of this, struggling

    My husband and I are new to an open marriage. We are still struggling to make the distinction and the decision between open marriage and polyamory. I feel emotionally adrift. I thought that perhaps those who have been practicing polyamory for some time might have some advice. Some background--...
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