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Your feelings of rejection are valid. It can suck to be used to seeing sex as validating and then not receive that validation from a lover when others are. You should discuss your feelings aside from sex and indicate to him that you need more connection. Nobody I know that is really connecting...

I totally get that. I would be upset too. The way I see it, by going about this the way he has, he has taken a potentially good thing and turned it in something you have to stress about. Another way to handle this would be to ask her how she feels about you sleeping with him, without his...

I never realized that this was a thing. I'm sure it is because I opened up to group sex before fully opening my relationship, but there have been several cases where I was intimate with my wife hours after she was with another guy. I don't think I would want to be with a woman that expected me...

I can totally see where this is an invasion of privacy and may bother more private people. I personally enjoy any and all questions about my life. Of course, I'm not talking about locker room drama about my sex life with names changed to protect the guilty, I'm pretty open about that in the...

My wife was recently involved in a similar situation. She was involved in a relatively casual threesome with a monogamous couple that was trying to facilitate the wife's bisexuality as part of their path towards opening up. The husband has been the one handling most of the communication with my...

Thank you everybody that has contributed. I am working on reminding myself that things between us are special just because we are together and not focusing on the uniqueness of an activity so much as the fact that it is special when we do it. We went for a drive recently and I reminded myself...

I have a couple of remarks as a man who has been requesting details a lot in the beginning. On the one hand, it is probably easier for someone that starts life poly and stays poly to not need details. You can just assume that if someone didn't want you, or preferred someone else; you would...

I have been married for 10 Years to Australia and not actively dating anyone. We have been open off and on for going on four years. This has been more off than on. We are fully committed to living an honest and open life now. My wife is far more successful at this time than I am. This is...

I've had a partner and I expirience a situation like this. Nothing as major, but we have been aproached by people that would be lying to see us. We have decided and agreed that we would not risk hurting them, ourselves, or the institution of Poly, by being a part of anyone's cheating. I think...

I'm a tad confused. You use two different labels for this man, and labels are important as your question is label specific. I try to avoid labels, but I define Primaries to be people you are in a priority, possibly financial-marital, relationship with. I find that Secondaries tend to be people...

My lover/fiance has had three or four men over the last few months that want her to be monogamous. None have aggresively tried to make her monogamous. They just get close to her, start to develop feelings for one another, and then say that they can't handle being with a poly woman. Living in...

Im super new to the idea so my reply might be fun to have in line with all these veterans and mid range members. This is my take on the story, Sydney's may be different. When I met Sydney she was my 3rd real "girlfriend" we were 17-18. I am older. We went two years like this, and then I broke...

Once I get settled down I think a more straight forward approach may be an option in some cases. As of right now me and Sydney are still car shopping and I'm looking for a job in my new location. I think that the approach might depend on the meeting circumstances. Thanks for all your opinions...

Sorry to be away so long. I am in Florence with Sydney so I haven't been sitting at the computer much. I've pretty much decided that I am going to just treat people right and let them limit our relationships instead of assuming a limit based on their preconceived lifestyle. I think that a...

Sorry to double post. I dont use a dating service now. I may in the future but we (me and my fiancee) are kinda ramping up slowly. So for now I was just happy with the non relationship specific benefits of poly: not living a lie, being happy, no guilt, freedom, honesty, communication, and the...

Wow. I am totally impressed with the responses here. I was not expecting such a vocal community. I am not flirting with just anyone in the small town. A couple people caught my attention unexpectedly. As far as the future goes I'll be keeping quiet in the smaller town. It seems like...

That is a wonderful place to be in your life, to be able to live that honestly. I live between two cities, one larger and more liberal than then other. In Florence, AL all my friends and any girls I meet know I'm newly poly. However, Double Springs is tiny. The largest building is the church. My...

I live in an area where poly is not that popular. That being said I have recently decided with to become poly and have a finacee about an hour away. Since most of the women here are religious, and possibly all of the women here are monos I wind up flirting with mono girls. I mean, I don't seek...