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I'm curious about this, as I've watched several of my partners over the years maintain relationships with people who were clearly unhappy being poly. Whose responsibility is it to end a relationship when one partner wants something more/different than the other? Is it cruel to keep dating...

Hello all! Thanks so much for the advice y'all gave me over a year ago about my lover Erin. Since I last posted, she and I have worked hard at our relationship and are now in a stable, deeply loving partnership that we hope will be lifelong. We've stopped fighting, but we've also stopped...

Update Hi again, all! Thanks for your good advice a few months ago, and here's an update as promised. Not long after I last posted, things took an unexpected turn when Becca was diagnosed with cancer and needed immediate surgery. She is now in chemo, with Erin as one of her primary...

The person who first introduced me to polyamory when I was a wide-eyed 20-something used roughly this same argument when explaining what it meant to be poly: no one ever has to break up this way. That was about a week into our fling (during which we were sharing a bedroom in a collective house)...

Hi everyone-- Thanks so much for the feedback. I agree with KC43 and the others who advised me to stay out of Becca's process. It's always good to remember that when I start to fixate on my lover's lovers, it means I need to draw back and take better care of myself. When I wrote the original...

Hi all, I'd love some advice and perspective. I've been dating my partner Erin for four years, all long-distance. I just moved to her town last week and while we're getting a sense of what this new phase of our love will look like, we're also trying to deal with a difficult poly situation. For...