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Here's another question, my partner had cut off the guy she cheated with online. Now that we're trying to move forward I wanted to know where she stood with him. Am I wrong to be angry that she wants to continue to talk to this guy??? Kerowax- 39f Bi Partner- 40f poly

SNeacail, The counselor is both kink and poly friendly. Both my partner and I like her, I think I just need to be patient. I just hate the turmoil. :-( Kerowax

Magdlyn, So are you and your husband still together? If so, how did he learn to cope with the change?

@ Inyourendo: We are having sex just not very often. But when I mention wanting more she says that because she can't be with multiple people, she turns off her sex drive completely and she is not often in the mood. I usually am the one trying to get things going :-/

nycindie, We have gone to couples counseling about three times now. It seemed the last session wasn't very productive so I'm hoping it gets better. I don't think she is neglecting or blaming me as much as depressed. She gets upset when I complain about not getting the sex because she feels I'm...

Wow. Where have you all been??? I have been a basketcase for over a month and I am relieved to have found this site and your feedback :-) @ Inyourendo: What you speak of is exactly how I felt. Granted she isn't going out and sleeping with anyone but when I found out that she had written...

KC43, Point well taken. I have been working on not crying, yelling, and being a basketcase in general. I do have to take responsibility for my jealousy but I feel that her actions are what makes me jealous and insecure. I don't understand how I can't be jealous when intimacy that I barely get is...

SNeacail, Thank you. I will definitely read up and see if this helps. I do believe that getting my emotions under control will allow me to see things clearly so that I can figure out whether I can do this or not. I appreciate all the help. Thank you.

Inyourendo, Even that seems extreme to me. We are going to counseling and boundaries are what we are currently working on. I don't think I could be ok with watching her walk out the door and know that she's going out to have sex with someone else. How do poly people deal with jealousy? She cut...

Confused. Leander, I guess I don't understand, what do you mean by: "Do you think you could find some to cope with trying?" I really want to try and make this work, my family is at stake. I am willing to try, I am just blind to all of this and don't know how to meet her in the middle? Thank...

When I met my partner 15 years ago she told me she was poly. I was not. I asked her to give monogamy a chance and she did. Over the last 15 years the topic has come up two or three times. We have two young children and recently we have come to a headpoint. She wants to be poly and I don't think...