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Having another emotional day. Been doing a lot of reading. Some makes sense and other stuff gives me the shits. :p I like the idea of relationship anarchy (it makes the most sense to me), however I still have questions and fears with it. I keep journaling my thoughts and feelings to try to...

Why is there so little in tv/movies about polyamorous relationships? How are we supposed to try to come up with good role models if a person has never met a polyamorous couple/triad or whatever you call a multi-person relationship? My only exposure of anything even remotely close in tv/movies...

I don't want to cage him in. I don't want to restrict him. He is who he is. I do have my own needs. I need to have honesty and communication in our relationship. I need to be emotionally close. I need him to spend time with me, to say nice things to me again. When he is with me, I need to...

But I think I am somewhat hormonal haha, I get pms starting about a week to two weeks before hand, and I've just weaned my youngest recently and so have had crazy hormonal stuff go on (hot sweats and so on). But you are right about the emotional stuff being related to big changes. I am afraid...

Thank you Carson, growing up with such shame surrounding such issues is difficult, I'm glad you and your wife are working towards finding your own paths. I wish you the best on your paths also. :)

I have no advice or answers. Just wanted to say I loved reading your post and learnt quite a bit from it. Thank you :)

I try to wrap my head around how someone can love more than one person at the same time. I've read a lot of articles recently and been trying to absorb and meditate on them. I look at my children, and I know I love them each deeply and in their own unique way. My eldest is fiery and bubbly, my...

My eyes are sore. I've spent much of the day crying on and off. Can't understand why I'm so emotional. My partner says he thinks I'm very depressed. Perhaps I'm just hormonal. I've been trying to sort through my thoughts and feelings. Regardless of what happens, I want this opportunity to be a...

I don't know if I can salvage this relationship. How does one work through things when the other person doesn't want to put in effort? When the other person sees it as a waste of time. Can't see there are problems or would rather just brush things under the carpet. I can't do it all on my own...

I hope to use this blog to work through my thoughts, feelings and experiences. I do hope to use this process to become a bigger person than I was yesterday and maintain a forward motion in my life. My intro is here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=73222 I've spent some time...

Thank you zigzag, I've actually bookmarked it so I can buy it soon. :D

Thankk you InfinitePossibility for your reply. :) Yes, I see what you're saying, I actually phrased it wrong. Sounds very selfish. I love my children deeply and find raising them very rewarding - something very special (life-changing). What I was trying to get across was I have this fear...

Thank you David for your response. I will have to read your intro! :D He has said he's going to pull back from any involvement with other women until I feel completely ready for him to take the next step. He's also said he's going to be honest from now on, that it's hard for him given he's...

Thank you all for your replies, I'm sorry I didn't reply back last night but him and I spent another couple of hours talking and I ended up crying and bleh. :(

Not at all kdt26417, thank you for giving me some answers, it is reassuring. :D

Thank you kdt26417 for your warm welcome. I'll post up in the blog section later today when I have the time and energy, it will be good to have somewhere I can organise my thoughts and watch how I grow through this process. Will definitely get those books when I can afford it, and will probably...

Thank you for replying, I really appreciate your input. :) He says he would be ok if I had relationships with others, but would find it difficult if it was men. Which doesn't bother me at all that he feels that way about me with other men as I myself feel very much to be a one man woman. I'm...

Posting again :o Was wondering if it's ok for me to post in the blogs section? :confused:

I think for me (sorry to be using so many Is and me's), my fears and insecurities go back to having a very painful childhood. I grew up in a very religious household that was abusive physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and a lot of neglect. I got kicked out of home as a...

Thank you kullervo for your kindness, I did just read your thread with your wife, was very touching to hear both of your stories. I had a big talk with him this afternoon. He actually cried which was a shock. I didn't think he cared about how hard this is for me, but he says he does care. I...