Search results

My wife will be making an account later tonight. I can't wait for you guys to meet her. She is such a beautiful person. Much of this hasn't yet really set in for her the way it has for me. When it does I know she will need support and I will give what I can. I Know she will find the same support...

You all have done all three.

Please don't assume this has been easy for me. I have not really talked about the painful moments much. I realize I am just writing about the high points and that can be disingenuous. There has been much pain and hurt in letting go of certain beliefs. The thought of what is to come and the...

This is all so new to us and we are changing rapidly as we find our selves. As one jumps into the pool there are many violent waves in rapid succession, but over time the waves intensity and interval mellow and slow to gentle ripples. We are riding the waves at the moment and enjoying every moment.

Ok, I reread your post. I think I understand. Our definition of partner may be different on this. She is still my partner we just wont have sex as she want's to explore that possibility. She want's to share her home with another, that does not diminish our relationship. I cannot say to her that...

lol no not at all. sex is not the defining characteristic of polyamori. Her love for me is not being replaced by her love for him. It is in addition to our love. Just as if/when I fall in love with another, it will not replace my love for my wife, it will be in addition to it.

Sorry, I didn't actually answer you question. While at one moment we would have occasionally had sex, her deciding to explore this means that we won't. That may, or may not, change in the future. Sex is merely a fun thing for two people to do, it does not define our love. While I am sad that I...

Yes, I will possibly have sexual relations with others as I no longer identify love as sex. Yes we will still get two apartments as I do not identify love as cohabitation. Also, this morning she has decided she wants to explore a different relationship with the boyfriend mentioned in the earlier...

Good news everybody! (ten internet points to those who get the reference) My wife and I have made a discovery. We never really separated. Confused? If so, hear me out, this is pretty heavy stuff. We have been talking non stop these last few days, and learning revelation after revelation about...

Thank you all. While I understand the sentiment, don't be sorry for us. This is a joyous occasion for us all.

Well, I last spoke of my wife having her weekend with her boyfriend. Leading up to that point in our relationship involved a lot of soul searching on both of our parts. That soul searching, after her weekend, led us to the realization that we had been married to our marriage and not to each...

My wife is back. She was glowing when she walked into the house. I survived and she came home to me. I am still working through a slew of emotions and it will be a hard road, I am sure. Despite that, when she came home we were able to connect in a way that we never had before. Never in the nine...

lol The hug is welcomed. You have no idea how helpful you have been. Thanks again.

"to grieve the loss"...I have been looking for a name for what I have been feeling and coming up blank. I now understand. damn, its like a floodgate has been opened as I type this. Thank you.

well, this is the big test. My wife is spending the weekend with her boyfriend for the first time. Intellectually, I am ok and understanding, but emotionally I am freaking out just a little bit. This is tough. I hope that it's just first time jitters. I don't want to feel this way each time she...

Thank you. :)

Well, I guess this is my introductory post. I am very new to this whole poly thing and have had to do some self examination. I am not poly, but we recently discovered that my wife is. It has been a learning process for the both of us. Even though most people would categorize me as conservative...