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I'm with Galagirl with this... It's a tough decision, but ultimately you should be open and honest with your feelings. If it's something you don't think you can do, you need to be upfront and say it. Not everyone can just open up and accept the poly lifestyle, so its completely OK to want to...

You can also just disable your account instead of deleting it. That way its all there when you want it. If you chose, you can give your friends on OKC an alternate way to chat with you.. Kik, etc... Good way to take a break without killing OKC all together. -Jay

Also agree with this statement... Unfortunately it seems like some guys have a habit of being complete asshats no matter how nice. -Jay

I have no script but I do know personally, I would direct and honest. Better to have some feeling hurt now than going down a rabbit hole. Compose your message to him without interference of chat or distraction so you can have time to compose your thoughts. I wouldn't ghost, not saying you would...

"positive Harm". Kids these days will try to spin anything... Devil's advocate even. There is no devil with this one. Whats wrong is wrong no matter how you slice it. No spin. The logic of some to see the "other side" of things astounds me. There are some things that there are no "positive spin"...

Well I can feel your pain about small poly groups. I live right smack dab in the bible thumping south, not really a place to be poly. The in person meetup group was friendly, and the few people that were at the meeting I got along with pretty well, but it seemed like they get sporadic...

Welcome... This forum is an invaluable resource to the poly community. Most people respond open and honestly here... Lurk around and read, and never feel afraid to ask questions. Others will post some good reading and forum topics for you to look through I am sure. Research and open...

She already had an interest. The interest at the time didn't work out but did end up working out for her a little later down the road. It's kind of what the catalyst to opening our marriage up after her repressing her feelings for so long. I had a pretty big learning curve. I was a serial...

Wife and I opened a previous monogamous marriage. We did not go the let’s have a threesome or look for a unicorn stage. Wife and I have always preferred our relationships separate. I think how we got into it was better for us than a triad. It was a better adjustment for me who was very mono...

It's a jealousy and ownership dynamic that irks me with what you say about Matt. ..or something I call one sided Poly. In Matt's mind OK for him to go and have relationships but you can't because he is uncomfortable. More than likely it's with intimacy issues that you are having a relationship...

Yup welcome to the world of poly dating for most men. No, I am not jaded or anything. It is what it is for most poly men on dating apps. I've come to accept that and work around it accordingly. In my very small unscientific study, unless you have a body of steel and rippling abs AND looking for...

Well said, MeeraReed. This was the exact issue that I had with the last woman that I had a serious interest in. She and I have major chemistry, but her husband, who is supposedly bi and poly, and has had his own relationships, went all meltdown-like when she and I tried to actually start having...

A word of advice. If you marry her don't let her repress her true feelings and give up the other one. My wife (GF back then) gave up multiple relationships for me. At the time I though nothing of it, I should be her everything... Yeah well that came back 20 years later, and now we are in a poly...

Not saying this as an excuse and there really isn't an excuse to be over the top pushy. ...and I have limited experience here but that being said. I know when to back off if someone is not interested. Maybe it's supply and demand thing. If you are in an area where poly is in and there is an...

Welcome, I and a lot of other people here understand what you are going through. It can very daunting and tough. http://www.kathylabriola.com/articles/are-you-in-poly-hell That should help with some of the feelings your going through. This website will help a lot too. It's been a wealth of...

Hi there. Welcome. You have come to the right place. Where are you from? There are certain areas that are more poly friendly than others. I happen to live in a very sparse poly friendly area, so its good that there is a poly friendly meetup where you are. Everyone here is friendly and helpful...

That made me smile. Jay and Silent Bob reference! :) -J

Thanks for the responses. Its good to have the insight of others and very helpful. I am so going to use some of those things in my profile. :) -J

I did some searching and couldn't sift through the 35 page posts to extract what I needed. Sooo I figured I'd post the question and hope some of you guys/girls knew the answer or at least point me to a specific post to read. Since I have no interest in being the monogamous partner in a poly...

This forum has been very helpful working with this lifestyle as this is a big step for me in our relationship. This has been an interesting ride for me as I have been a "serial monogamist" most of my life, my wife I am convinced was poly from the start. When we dated, she was dating multiple...