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yes...I think his insecure state lead to him taking the statement from Nycindie as a statement that I should go on and leave him to catch up. I am in no way wanting to leave him behind, I want to be open and completely honest while being loving and understanding to Myk. I really want this to...

As far as insecurities are getting better......the roadblock I have hig now is that my primary partener, M, is struggling with the feelings I have for Maccadam. I see from browsing this site that this can be a common growth pain in this situation. I need help with this....this is the hard part.

Polywanna I am sort of in the same situation. I have found someone and my partener is still looking. I struggled with the worry of things being fair...it is a very hard struggle. I just had to keep telling myself that this type of relationship will not always be fair, there will be times that...

Annabelmore that is actually a wonderful idea! I will try that out and keep you guys updated. Minor update: I have kind of taken a don't ask don't tell approach. ..it is kind of helping. I have also asked for their patience while I find my way.

I could kiss you on the mouth!! I have not thought of it that way! I am being my own bully. I often feel like a crybaby after I have these thoughts. I am going to work on killing those thoughts when I start bullying myself.

Yes those would be very helpful! Thank you!

Thank you so much!!! I needed to hear that. You are right there is no place for "better" or "worse"....you have no idea how much that one statement just helped!

I can try doing that... I think it comes from a feeling of them finding something better than me.

Any good tips on handling feelings of being insecure? I have talked to both of my partners regarding my feelings. They understand and are very supportive but how do I help myself deal with the feelings? *Background* I am the hinge in a "V" and I have insecurities about my two male partners...

oh yes there are more conversations to come for sure....I am just wanting to take time and have them when the time is right. I don't want to rush anything.

We have had that conversation, it went very well. He understands that I don't want anyone other than the two of them. I think he does need the hierarchy to feel confident that I am not going anywhere since this is so new to both of us. I am just hoping that it can eventually go away.

ohhh....ok I see what your saying now.

Are you asking if it is an "affair" because they love each other? Correct me if am wrong....but isn't love and expressing love part of being poly and having a boyfriend/girlfriend??

both. I know any time is a good time to bring it up but how do I do it. I also need to focus on dealing with my own feelings and not trying to handle and deal with his for him. I have a real bad habit of trying to make everything ok for him instead of just stating my own feelings and intentions...

I wouldn't say there are areas of disagreement....I haven't actually come out and stated my feelings yet. We started out just as an open relationship, both of us looking to have random hook ups...more of a "play when away" arrangement. Things changed for me when I became closer to Maccadam. Now...

Hi! I am new to the poly life style. My current relationships are my fiance who I live with and my boyfriend who is currently long distance. My current struggle is my ideals have developed into poly feelings but my fiance is still more of the swinging life style. He wants to maintain the...