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Hello DragonFruitHunter: You mentioned "I am missing the thrill of new relationships as well as being able to connect with other people without the stress of jealousy and boundaries dictated by normative mono relationships." This alone tells me you are not happy with the confines of a...

Colleen another part of this is relationships are complex...so what would it be like for you to move in with a man and his wife? Have you met his wife? Everyone has to be on the same page for this to work.

Colleenie93 just want to give you perspective being on the other side of this. I am currently married but planning to get divorced because my wife is coming out as lesbian. My current girlfriend of 9 months is from the Philippines. It's tricky because even though both of us would like to get...

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Communication - yes emotional attachment - yes high level of ongoing intimacy - if you mean sex then no, but affection yes metamour is not against my wife and I communicating, she is just uncomfortable with my wife (or any partner for that matter) having sexual intimacy with anyone besides...

Open relationship? Are we being poly snobs just because I didn't specifically mention the word polyamory? ;) I think the wife is fiinally giving up on the metamour...I've given them lots of leeway and even so they still can't get along and it isn't because of me. The thing she keeps mentioning...

Again just wanted to thank you all for your input. Yes much of this has been discussed before...it will take some time to adjust to these new realities.

breathemusic you're right on target with your response. Thanks!

Hello All, Been here before but just wanted to give a brief update. Just moved from Hawaii back to Taiwan and it's been a huge transition. My wife and I still live separately but do communicate often. We do feel connected and affectionate towards each other but no sex. So here's the situation...

Yeah you're right kdt26417, it just seems so overwhelming because I'm relocating to Taiwan while having these relationship challenges. I have a sense when I get to Taiwan my wife and I will regroup for a bit.

One of the things that makes things a bit complicated is my wife and I still love each other very much...I am so confused and it's dragging me further into depression. She even made it clear to me it's OK if I go outside the marriage for sex. She dated another woman but this woman wants full...

We can rent easily in Hawaii. It will be about two years or so until the house is ready to sell. Preparing to move to Taiwan around the end of this month. I'd rather get on with my life that go through all of the effort to make friends and then moving so shortly thereafter.

Thanks all for your suggestions. We're both renting out our property until this renovation madness is completed. And as far as the anti-depressants, I've done my best to stay off of them completely. I've heard so many scary things about them from people who have tried them. The tricky part is...

Hey Kevin, Thanks for your insightful questions. Amicable divorce is a good possibility, but not so soon due to our house situation. I am in Hawaii right now and have a few friends here but it's not an easy situation since I'll be moving soon :(

Ooops not exactly. I've lived in Taipei Taiwan on and off for 20 years. Two of my closest friends work in Taipei. Plus all of my business is over there. I'm alone in Hawaii calling my Taiwanese business associates on the phone. Yes fear of change made me want to just stick it out in Hawaii...

Thanks all for asking questions...it makes it easier to elaborate. Came up with a list of what got me into the depression: 1) Since my wife went back to Taiwan I'm living alone in Hawaii. I neglected building social circles while we were together. So feeling lonely 2) I work out of my house so...

Hello All, My wife currently lives in Taiwan and I'm planning on moving back in a few weeks. But many things hit me all at once that are causing me to feel depressed. I've been in this state of mind for 4 months. I realized that lack of family and close friends near me and lack of work...

This was very helpful in my case. My wife and I disentangled way too quickly which resulted in all sorts of problems. Taking baby steps seems to make far more sense.

Hello LifeLover, Interestingly enough, I found myself in a situation with some striking similarities but some differences. My wife found a lesbian lover in Taiwan. She had actually planned this out for several months before going over there. I was supposed to go over there for business but we...

Hey GalaGirl, Shaya, Tinwen, kdt, FallenAngelina: I sincerely thank you all for all of your support and perspectives. While I am still a bit shattered due to facing head to head with everything all at once, the feedback you have all given has slowly helped me to pull my life back together...