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I have to brag on myself for just a moment. Yesterday my boyfriend told me near the end of the day he was in a terrible mood and feeling uneasy. I asked him what was up and it was mostly a series of events through the day that were generally crappy. One of his other partners got fired from her...

Well, I am not sure what to say to that. I don't really know that I even need to respond, but I am curious... Do you think that poly love isn't authentic? Not that it matters, but I am the primary partner in this relationship. We have plans to move in together when the logistics work for both...

Talk to her. Don't bottle up your feelings. Don't make your feelings less important that hers.

Bless your heart sweetie, those aren't little things. Not being honest is a big deal, and in my opinion isn't poly. That's cheating.

You have to tell your girlfriend how you feel and not worry about it making her feel bad. I fell into that trap too and I was unhappy. You cannot ignore your needs just because you want her to be happy. Don't you want to be happy too? An open relationship won't work if you can't communicate...

Unfortunately, down talking myself is a habit. This stems from childhood trauma immediately followed by a terrible 15 year long marriage. My ex husband was excellent at knowing just what to say to make me feel like a loser. I've been blissfully divorced for 3.5 years but that damage is taking...

You're right, I am avoiding yucky feelings and bottling things up. I am not giving him enough credit for being able to deal with my feelings. Every time something like this has come up he has reacted well and validated me, so my fears are pretty much unfounded so far. We certainly need to work...

Yes, I do compare myself to his other girlfriends. I know I should not do this, but it is very hard. I always find myself thinking, what does he see in her that I don't have? I know this isn't helpful and I'm working on it. I don't know that there is a magic cure other than time. I have never...

My name is Jen. I have been dating a poly man for a year now. I knew he was poly when he asked me on our first date. We were casual acquaintances and facebook friends. I was married for 15 years and I've been divorced for 3. I had dated some but nothing I would call a significant relationship. I...