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Hi all, I am new to open relationships and polyamory, and am still struggling with old mindsets and insecurities, to my surprise I must admit. I have entered a new relationship half a year ago and the we both were very clear on that it should be polyamorous. Before that we both only played or...

Very good point. But I do think that you can see that somehow, for example my primary partner makes me feel good in a lot of different ways, than my secondary partner. They are very different.

I don't pour all my energy into him. I put energy in both relationships. I don't want to favour on over the other either. I want them to be equal in any and every way. But I agree with you that maybe my focus should be more on myself. That was the starting point of entering these two...

No, well that part of pouring all energy into her was my interpretations. He just said that "it makes me love her more". But it feels like that if he has a problem then he comes to me, and then he is back with her when everything is fine. I think that's where my problem lies. I think it's...

Yeah, I am new to poly, too. This is my first time with two relationships at the same time. If the relationship suffers under it? I'm not sure really. I don't know if I handle well to be secondary partner, even though he is the same to me. I think I'd rather have two partners on the same level.

Thank you for the kind words. I think you are right about that.

Yes, I do think it is like that. I just felt like I am not benefiting, because just there and then it felt like I am left out of the equation. I see now that that was a silly thing to think.

Yes, I agree with that. And from the answers I have read here now, I think I maybe just overreacted. But stil I felt hurt just then. Also with the background that he hasn't yet said that he is in love with me. Yes, that's about what he said, too. And I don't think he meant to hurt me or anything.

Hi, I am new to this forum and came across it because I was looking for some advice about poly relationships. So I hope some of you have some :-) Following situation: My partner in my secondary relationship says he is so happy with being together with me and we can talk about things he can't...