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update Hi All! Time flies, I wanted to give you some news for a long time and here I am, finally! I broke up with SexyGerm in march. And it was a really good decision. It gave us the opportunity to finally open to each other and connect in a deeper way. We are back together but the dyanamic...

Thank you Thank you for writing this closure Reverie. I wish you all the best in the future, I am sure you are creating it!

News Hi all! Not much to say in fact... our date to talk about the things my boyfriend was suppose to process: - his feelings towards my cheating and where is stands towards that situation (wanna continue with me? what are his needs here) - my willingness to be in an open relationship and how...

Hi Kevin, thank you for your reply and the tip on next thing to do. That was very helpful. We have a date planned in 2 weeks to talk about things he had to process. Hi Galagirl, thank you for your reply and wise advices. We setted an appointment date. It was a bit hard for me to ask for it and...

Hello all! Thank you very much for your replies and support! Thank you Kevin. We both know NVC and even bought the same book in both our langages to be able to practice. We have the good tools... but deep rooted interaction schema :( Thank you very much for your advice and to suggest me to...

Thank you very much for your reply GalaGirl, I really appreciate it. Yes, we definitly do. We agreed to go to a therapist, I have to make an appoinment. Sounds like a good agreement. Thank you, easy and honest. Way clearer this way. I broke the agreement. And I am mad at me I did, I wish...

Hello guys! I would really appreciate your advices here, even if it is not about polyamory itself but nonmonogamy. My boyfriend and I had several talks during the past year about opening up. He knows I have a drive for that and he can see himself also benefit from it. But we never came to any...

interesting article Hey! This is not directly related to what you express but I felt like you could be interested in reading this article I've juste read: http://neurosciencenews.com/iq-hyper-brain-body-7720/ I can't even begin to tell you how I can relate to what you write here. Thank you...

book recommandation Hi Reverie, I am a big fan of your blog and I followed your link to this thread :) I read a book a few years ago and I think the main idea was about finding balance between intimacy and desire. I found it quite interesting. It's cald "mating in captivity". I don't...

Hi LadyJane, I appologize for my english, it is not my mother tongue. Still I will try to reply to you :) Or that you have room for improvement ;) Let me rephrase if you don't mind. He invites you over with his GF, ask if you are cool with it. A part of you wants is screaming "Nooooo, I am...

Just empathy Hi kvb, I just wanted to thank you for your thread. You are so open and honnest and reading you and GalaGirl answers is really therapeutical for me. I know this is not the aim at all but as it seems that we have a lot in common, you might feel less like a load if you know that...

Thank you Magdlyn! :) When I (re)-met SexyGerm about a year ago, I wanted to be single but I am commited to my relationship with SexyGerm now and I don't consider myself as single anymore. We are now in a monogamous relationship and we still have to talk about opening, how it would look like...

So... I need to clarify things for myself and talk with SexyGerm. I know this is a blog and not an advice board but as I was reading so much of your blogs, I feel a bit like you are wise friends used to this soul searching work so please, if you read me and feel like reflecting something or...

Had a great evening with SexyGem yesterday :) We went out for pizzas, Italian red wine... He was stressed and it is always a bit difficult for me to deal with this situations when I see him like that. I am very sensitive to non-verbal communication and I tend to assume quite quickly that I am...

I love so much reading your blogs, it brings many insights and thoughts I want to dig in... I decided to start one. First of all, english is not my native language, I am french, please forgive me if I am hard to understand and don't hesitate to ask clarification. Feedbacks, comments...

Thank you all for your replies! I am looking for kind of checklists or "guideline" to go through the questions. I will chek the links you gave

Hi all! I have been addicted to this website since I discovered it. I am learning so much from your blogs and answers to other subjects, it is really a pleasure! Thank you! Here come my request: My boyfriend and I planned a date thursday to talk about opening our relationship and how it could...

Frenchie here :) Hey there! I am french, leaving in France but I don't claim having a societal view on that matter so my reply is mostly my own narrow view. Also, I come from a small city, never lived in a big one even thought i moved quite often. First, even thought France look very small...

Update Hi All! Almost a month have passed and I thought I would write some update, maybe it could be usefull for some people in a similar situation or at least it is a good exercice for me. I also want to thank you for the quality of your answers, I don't write but i read a lot this forum...

Thank you Shaya for your reply! I had read your story before and it was really a great source of inspiration to dig into myself. I hope you are good now :) Y. says he is open to be in a polyamoric relationship. He never had that but he sees advantages and he is up to try. And I made it very...