Search results

My original reply was made after a night of no sleep. After some sleep and caffeine I see that I was mistaken. There is nothing wrong with Schrodinger's math. I think if we work at it we can come up with a model of relationship issues that takes into account not only that different people have...

Schrodinger, your math isn't quite right. I would agree that that adding a partner more than doubles your issues. By your formula moving from single to just one partner would only double the number of issues. You should make n=2 a special case and apply 2^n-1 to n>2.:) I wonder what happens...

I started living with S and K (along with a couple other people not in the relationship) almost before I had started dating S or knew what poly was. It all happened so quickly I can't remember what happened first. One issue that arose (and we are still work through) is that interior walls are...

Agreed! I would have considered myself mono until I started dating S. She never made me feel like I was being hunted and that is what made my transition to poly possible.

@thunkybunny: Yes, what S describes is a bit one-sided. That is to be expected, as she is only one side of her relationship(s). As the other side of one of her relationships, I have almost exactly opposite red flag settings. The thing our red flags have in common is if the other is not working...

Hi this is Z. I have said that I am okay with A moving in and I don't see that changing unless something really crazy happens. That being said I am still processing what it means to me and how I need to deal with it. It should also be noted that along with A moving in there is a lot of change...