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Thank you for sharing your experience with me! I agree love isn’t always about orgasms and sex. It is important to me obviously because that’s what made me seek out an open relationship. However, I have a great deal of love and respect for my boyfriend. The thought of me not being in his life...

My husband and I had a very positive first counseling session last Saturday so we’ll see how this weeks go. My husband agreed he knows he contracticts himself and is a bit of a devils advocate. We are working on figuring out what he wants in all of this. My bf and I are still on a sexual break...

He does have cuckold fantasies, I believe he’s ashamed of it. He does send me a lot mixed messages; one day he’ll ask me to stop other days he’s taking pictures of me in my new dress and telling me to send them to my bf. Things like that have my head all over the place of what he wants. I’m not...

My husband said last night that if he can get over his insecurities and guilt of not being able to please me maybe this could work long term. He told me he’s been fighting himself. On one hand it’s arousing for him he enjoys waiting for me to come home and we’ve had some awesome sex after. Yet...

This is what i’m trying to ask myself. I won’t be completely happy with my boyfriend in fact I’d probably be less satisfied with him as a whole. Yet I will always be missing something with the husband. Unless I leave both and start fresh and look for someone that meets my needs more sexually and...

I agree. One of us will be giving up something, I don’t want him to feel forced into this poly lifestyle. I have a lot more to lose my family means everything. So as much as it pains me to lose my bf I will choose my husband. I feel like I need to see a sex therapist though and try and...

Thank you all for sharing your experiences. I’m not sure if I am poly. However, from my research I have read that poly is the state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time. Which clearly I do. I am in love with my husband and in love with my...

I agree! Sooner rather than later. Hopefully the marriage counselor will help.

Thanks for the slap in the face! My intention is not to manipulate him by any means I love him dearly. I’ve ended it with my boyfriend three times, each time my husband has come back and said, he’s ok with it. I’m clearly misinterupting what he’s saying. He bounces around like a tennis ball...

I like this idea! This I think might help DH because he thinks there’s nothing between just us anymore. Actually my husband loves going down on me but my bf would rather not. Bf isn’t into oral sex much. This is something me and my husband both enjoy together. Yes, I believe so! Husband wants...

Thank you Magdlyn for your thoughtful response. It’s refreshing to know my feelings about PIV sex aren’t something to be overlooked. Sometimes I wish I could find a way to curb my appetite for it. My husband is a very good lover in every other way. I explained this to my husband last night and...

He’s adamant that he would never leave me. He loves me way too much. Obviously, things could change given how fed up he could get with the relationship dynamic. Throughout this whole thing my husband and I continue to have good sexual relations. It’s never been arkward, we both initiate sex...

Exactly! I know this is killing him and I’m being selfish. He opened up the relationship because he loves me so much he hates that he can’t give me what I need. He never once realized how hard it would be on him. Part of me knows I’m not being fair. I married him and I should try and work around...

We were all naive and probably jumped into this without looking into all aspects. My husband agreed to this short term for me to satisfy my sexual needs. He assumed after having got my kicks it would fizzle out.

Lunabunny, I’m all for this and my husband has suggested going back to PT. He hasn’t gone since he was a kid. I want to work with my husband on these issues, I do fear it still may not be enough. I’m feeling very conflicted, I know my relationship with my bf started off because of my sexual...

Aren’t I being selfish too? Part of me thinks I am. I’m clearly not listening to my husband’s views and feelings on this. He said he’s asked me to end it a number of times and I’ve ignored his feelings. I need to think about my answers to those questions.

My boyfriend knows everything about my husband’s insecurities. He’s been amazingly supportive. He doesn’t want to lose me and will follow my lead on whatever I decide. He suggested taking a break sexually if that would help. He says he doesn’t want to go down that road but it’s up to me. He said...

DH doesn’t seem to have a problem with the friendship. He knows we are super close, we’ve all been friends for over 14yrs. His main problem is the sex he wants our sexual relationship to stop. Husband wants to be the only one to please me as it should be (in his eyes) since we are married. DH is...

I’m all for investing in my sexual relationship with my husband. We haven’t seen a sex therapist so maybe that would be a good idea. My husband’s way of thinking is if we find other ways to please me in the bedroom that I won’t want sex with my bf anymore.

Really?! I’ve wondered if other people in my situation have opened the relationship to meet their needs due to phyical disabilities. I feel like i’m ruining his self esteem. He already feels crappy about his disability but knowing he can’t please his wife is destroying him. Me going off with...