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I haven't posted in a while, but I need advice! I have been dating my boyfriend Bob for 6 months. Things are going well. The sex is great. I love him. However, my bisexual urges seem to be getting stronger. I have been with girls and even couples in the past, when I was single, but I have never...

I definitely think I am a sex toy for them. And you know what? That's all well and good, but it shouldn't mean I don't deserve any consideration at all. This is my basic issue with all "friends with benefits" relationships. It becomes all about the benefits and not at all about the friends part...

Its one of those things, I guess. I don't get to have actual sex with him, but we do other stuff that is always awesome. We were actually supposed to hang out tonight. I texted Jen to confirm and they've actually gone out of town! That's the last straw. How very inconsiderate. She could have...

I guess I stay because the sex is so good. And it's safer than having sex with a single guy with whom I might get too involved or who might hurt me.

1) I don't need pregnancy explained to me. I have a child. 2) The impression I get is that Jen does feel jealous or left out, but doesn't want Ed to be miserable with the lack of sex in the relationship, so she is just tolerant enough to keep me around to help HER husband get off. I feel used...

This is more a vent than anything. Ultimately, I know that if I don't like the situation I should get out, but... OMG. Brief backstory: I have been involved with a couple (Ed and Jen), for a few months now, primarily sexually. There have been a few minor issues and it's been a learning...

No, he wasn't. I'm sorry I didn't clarify that. He and my mother divorced when I was 2, and he wasn't around much at all. Thank you for your response. .

Well, the inevitable has happened: I'm finally growing up. And part of that means dealing with past trauma, residual pain and lingering family dysfunction. I am a mom, and somehow, this makes my "recovery" more important than I think it would be if it were just me on my own. I don't like to...

I wish I had some advice...but I am a newbie with bad luck so far. Just wanted to give you a virtual hug and say that I understand why you are feeling sad and confused. Doesn't sound like a fun situation or an easy one. I will say that it sounds like he has made some steps without...

I am new to all of this as well but... I totally understand your need and desire to meet Mary. It would also concern me if I asked to meet someone, anyone, who was in my partners life and they were soooo opposed to it. What's the big deal? Why is she so adamant with her refusal? To me, it...

I don't feel a need to have a conversation about it. I am at peace with it. And I don't think this is really going to affect them like that. They will be on to the next one. I mentioned before that Jen ignores my attempts to talk about anything serious, or really anything not about sex, and...

No, I acknowledged that there might be aspects of the scenario that excite Barbie. But being aroused or excited by the idea of a threesome does not equate to a desire to open your relationship up or become poly. It sounds like she is indulging in a little fantasy talk.

No, there was no official breaking it off. I think it will just fizzle without my enthusiasm.

I'm not going to open myself up further and make myself vulnerable to people who quite obviously don't care. I'm not stupid or a glutton for punishment and rejection. I already feel like enough of a fool without drawing attention to all of my needs and concerns. I don't blame polyamory, but I...

Her situation could not be any more different from mine unless all the people involved were men. She is desperate to have sex with a married man, who is not actually in an open relationship, and whose partner is not 100% open to the idea of even having an open relationship. I was asked to be...

My impression: Barbie is not actually into this. She might find some of it appealing or arousing but overall, the idea of sharing or opening her relationship doesn't feel good to her. It sounds like you and Ken are struggling to refrain from expressing yourselves and acting on your urges, but...

I am rather sad to say I am pretty turned off to the idea of polyamory now. I can see how the primary relationship and people involved in it might be interested and benefit, but anyone else outside of that is just in a risky, less secure position I am disappointed. I know I've been told to...

I am beginning to feel like an object, like literally like a thing... empty and hollow and cheap. It's starting to eat away at me.

? Idk. Things went okay last night, but I am really beginning to think that this is just a fun sexual game for them, and I am just not cut out for it (too vulnerable, too insecure, too young). I don't think I can do it, and I don't think they care. It really hit me today that Jen is literally...

That makes sense. I wasn't trying to make generalizations. Maybe I am too accustomed to those traditional mono relationships, which have the same rules pretty much. So you can ask what's "normal" and what isn't. I am beginning to realize how very different and unique polyamorous...