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Thank you. But realistically, the whole concept of planning and sharing a life together HAS to be based on expectations. A commitment involves a promise. A promise engenders expectations you are supposed to be able to count on. It's very simple. He can expect me to be with him, and happy with...

Fair enough. People change. Maybe with the initial flush of serious infatuation that starts off love relationships, especially to those who are experiencing it for the first time, it's something that is very difficult to look beyond and in the future as something not absolute and exclusive...

We did agree to be monogamous for now in the main and in truth he said he would only want something to happen in a blue moon anyway. He opened up a lot more about things and said a lot of things that speak volumes. He remembers the last time he fell hard for someone in infatuation and he got...

Update Well a lot has happened. We had a huge blowout yesterday which ended up in us finally resolving a great deal of unanswered topics between us and most importantly I came away with a few definite assurances. Overall at the heart of things is a very marked difference in how he sees sex. It...

River Wrote: I hope I can. But how do you move past the feeling of being "not enough" if someone else has to fill that need for them to be satisfied? How do you reconcile being the most important thing in their life with a conditional "a priority" of importance? I guess it comes down to the...

*sigh*. Yes, that's the hardest part to swallow. Patience. I know things take time. I know this is relatively new. It's also not just truly new to me, it's really the FIRST for me. I may be a little older now, I may have had my casual life experiences with sex, but as to falling in love, this is...

JKelly wrote: I'm hoping this too. I've read that the "eros" phase of love lasts between 6 months to a year and half on average and that after this period there is an invariable slowing down of the neediness drive and the romantic singularity you feel toward a person. I'm hoping that this will...

jkelly Wrote: I think that's what concerned me too. I don't even think in truth that's it just the casual sex play that bothers me...it's that I feel a reluctance on his end to fully commit to us and accept it as a plan that you don't expect to fail and do eveything you can to make work. Just...

Thank you for your reply River. What do I think? Um....It's certainly a very tempting idea. It puts the issue off and enables me the time to deal with how I feel. But I keep thinking that if I don't take the plunge so to speak...that It'll just be easier and easier to accept the temporary deal...

Hi everyone. I hope I can learn a lot and try to not only understand my partner but be able to incorporate our feelings into a workable compromise. It's a weird situation for me now...although it wasn't as a concept before. I have had 2 relationships prior to this. Both long term, the second...