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He emailed back. They're discussing it tonight. Biting my nails.....:(

I've spent the afternoon composing a heartfelt and deeply thought-out email to Randy. I've asked if it's possible at this point in time in the relationship to pull the veto off the table and agree that the three of us will address relationship issues or problems together. Anxiously awaiting a...

:(I'm hoping with time, maybe the veto power won't be an issue. It was brought up in the very beginning. It's been almost a year now. It's just something that I always have in the back of my mind.

Wow! I read the thread. The WHOLE thread. There is a lot of passion about this subject! After reading it, I guess my "secondary" label really only applies to time spent and the investment and co-mingling of day-to-day living. I don't feel "secondary" in the love I receive. However, there...

Thank you redpepper. The link to that thread won't load. I'm very interested in delving into it. Would you mind checking and reposting the link? :)

Yes, this is something that comes to my mind when I think about analyzing my relationship with Randy. Recently, he made the comment "This isn't just about the sex, you know" he paused then we both laughed and simultaneously said "Well mostly!" There is a barrier to deepest intimacy in this...

I'm still relatively new here, and I've searched the forum for threads dealing with the perspectives of secondary partners. Most of the relationships I'm seeing described seem to be very close to equal. I've yet to find much information, so I'm posting my own and I'd love input. I introduced...

I'm new here and the other posts seem so involved. I am a Christian, and I believe completely that nothing, NOTHING, comes to me that does not come through the hand of God. He made me a spiritual person, He made me a sexual person. He has sent me the man I am with and that's the way it should be.

New to the forum. Just added profile pic. It is not showing up in any of my posts. Have I done something wrong? Not urgent, just interested.

I currently have 4 tattoos. I feel them on my skin before I get them, and I definitely have some new ink on the way. #1 - a grouping of 3 daisy-type flowers on my upper outer left thigh. They have peace signs in the middles of them and represent my 3 sons and my wish for peace in their...

Me...not quite BBW, a little more than curvy. Blonde in the summer, red in spring, fall and winter. Hazel eyes, thin framed glasses. Just as happy in Daisy Duke shorts as a nice dress. I always paint my toenails when I anticipate sex! When I was young I was compared to Meg Ryan and Melanie...

Beyonce....

Me faithful Christian, my partner and his SO, athiest. We agree to disagree.

What if she veto's me?

Thanks again for the interest in my thread. My last husband, the father of my son, was militantly monogamous. One catalyst for our divorce was that I had a friendship with a man (albeit non-sexual) and he was extremely jealous and deemed that friendship inappropriate. He went so far as to...

I wanted to say thank you for the responses. I am still digesting this information and I'll post again further, but I just wanted to offer my thanks for your understanding, compassion, and the welcoming nature of this forum.

I became involved with Randy eleven months ago as I was in midst of exodus from my second failed marriage. Randy has a full-time permanent primary partner in Vivian. I am not his first "second" but he is my first polyamorous partner. The relationship is not closed for any of us, but at this...