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True, but you haven't shown us that the imaginary woman and imaginary man in your examples are representative either. So that doesn't get us anywhere. I'm not sure how we get from there to women who hate strippers, but... I don't know any women who hate strippers, so I'm not sure your examples...

Those are some cute theories, Sociopath, but I can't say I've found them to be true in my experience. For instance, I'm a woman who did cheat on her handsome, supportive, sexually skilled husband. Why? Just because I wanted variety. I wasn't moving to greener pastures. I just wanted to mix it...

My husband and I stopped wearing our wedding rings after a year of marriage. Jewelry isn't how we roll.

Relationships shouldn't work with "rewards" and "punishments". It's more about: can you make it work? So here are some questions to help you figure that out. --Will you be able to be okay with the fact that she slept with her friend? Moving forward, do you think you'll hold it against her, or...

If you look at the statistics, about 85% of penises are within an inch and a half of each other. The moral of the story? Most penises are pretty comparable, so your problem is unlikely to "come up." Of course, different penises feel different, not just in their size, shape, or angle, but...

Um, so... if he finds this hypothetical other girl, are you just kicked out of the house?

So, just an update-- I had my baby four weeks ago on December 15. Fairly uncomplicated delivery. We named my son something cool that I won't tell you, and I'll instead call him Arthur here. He's doing well and breastfeeding like a fiend and I'm just... recovering. That first month is hard. My...

Yay--I saw some violin in here already. My husband and I are both violinists by trade... we play in a symphony orchestra together.

I wouldn't give you sympathy even if you wanted it. You'llbe fine. Herpes isn't a big deal. Do some research on it and you'll feel a lot better.

How dare this guy judge you for taking control of your own reproductive health? I dislike him already. I hope you took some Emergency Contraception. Also, I honestly won't judge you for staying silent about this until you can test. If this asshole boyfriend of yours freaks out on you just for...

Antipoly, I agree with you that kissing is sacred and special. But to say it's *more* sacred than sex is selling sex a little short. Your attitude tells me that you view sex as "just fucking"--so who's the one ruining romance here? Sex isn't an animal, unromantic act. It can be beautiful and...

"Boyfriend" can sound sort of juvenile after awhile, if you're living with a guy and co-parenting and have built a life together. If you're not married (and, for a long time, gay people couldn't be), using the term "partner" can be a choice you make to try and convey the seriousness of your...

My husband and I don't really have any rules except that we have to use condoms with outside partners for health reasons. Other than that, we just check in with each other and try not to be assholes.

Esarati300, I think you should consider just making friends and expanding your circles, doing activities you enjoy (hiking? wine tasting? volunteerism?) and getting to know people, male and female. You'll be in a much better position to find women with similar interests with whom you can share a...

I think it's a pretty good article about gaslighting, but the example at the beginning is not a good example of gaslightling.

Pregnancy concerns can be dealt with fairly reasonably. The women can go on birth control and there's always abortion if the paternity of the child isn't certain (and that matters to the father--it sort of depends on the guy). When a couple is trying to conceive, the woman can take a break from...

I think the term "unicorn" is important for one reason: it points out the unrealistic expectations of some couples diving into what they think is poly. I actually think we should appropriate the term for childcare! I've been looking at ads for nannies and there are so many families who want a...

Oh, sorry, wasn't paying proper attention. Yes, 5 months pregnant is awesome. Oh, to be 5 months pregnant again... I am a huge beached whale right now! Yes, this is my first pregnancy. I'm due on the 20th, but I'm scheduled to play my last concert on the 17th, so as long as he stays in until...

I have this with my husband! We opened things up but sort of reacted to it differently. I got involved with a co-worker and was unable to make it a one-time or casual thing, and so we've maintained things for about a year now. I sort of think of those two men as "my" people and have no real...

This is a generalization, and I have not found it to be true in my own pregnancy. I have had wonderful bonding experiences with my husband. Being pregnant with his child is a special time in our relationship. Still, I have also happily maintained things with my secondary man while pregnant...