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    How do you manage dyads in your (closed) tryad?

    We're a closed MFF tryad. When our wife moved in about 8 months ago, we were spending our intimate time primarily as a tryad -- the few dyad attempts bombed badly. I've continued to stress my own need to have dyad time with my/our (which is right and when?) husband. She works from home and we...
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    Feeling left out in sexually in my triad

    I'm coming back to give a sort of "this is how it went" summary, but first, I'd like to thank all of you for reading and commenting. I have at least one PM to answer still... Yesterday got pretty tense as my email hit their inboxes. They both reacted about how I expected each to react and some...
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    Feeling left out in sexually in my triad

    Husband and I are early 40s, she's mid-30s. As for "go for what you wanted" -- I wanted them to play more with me, one-on-one and together, I wanted more lead-up time before they try to get me off... I'm still not sure how to "demand" someone else's actions be what I want them to be... I'm...
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    Feeling left out in sexually in my triad

    The last time we talked, I had thought this was what we were going to do... and then we went back to the same stuff. I think for me, it's becoming an issue of trust: will my partners take care of me like I take care of them? There have been episodes of one or both of them falling asleep in the...
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    Feeling left out in sexually in my triad

    I am home, working on some personal projects. But the key element I was thinking of was: privacy. It's one thing to masturbate with a partner in the room. It's another thing entirely to have a partner walk in on a little personal masturbation time. I'll take a look at that book. As for making...
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    Feeling left out in sexually in my triad

    I think her insistence that I join them is an effort to make me feel desired (?). But I think most of it is that she's not ready to explore two of us being together when the other is around. I think there was, at first, when she was getting to know my physical reactions and needs, a sense of...
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    Feeling left out in sexually in my triad

    Oh, this. Exactly and totally this!!!! It's comforting to know I'm not the only one feeling all of this. Hmmm.... It could be challenging to get some time to myself, BOB or no BOB. However, I think just the willingness to get all sexy with me would be nice. Touch is so important -- there's...
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    Feeling left out in sexually in my triad

    Hey all, I'm one of the females in an MFF closed triad. We're still "shaking down" all the things which change when bringing a third person into an established relationship. I am the legal wife of the M in the triad -- I've been with him for 20 years. We've had some sexual "dry spells" in the...
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    Personal Summaries

    I'm Zephyr. I'm 40ish, married for a couple decades. My husband is a shade older. We've just moved into a new place, along with our fiance. We are a closed MFF triad, dealing with all the bumps and bruises of a new relationship settling down. I'm here because my other main source of poly...
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