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Thank you everyone that responded. I've read your posts all these years up to the last six months. I've learned amazing things from this forum and from Alanon things I couldn't have learned any other way if I weren't in this relationship or it would've taken me much longer. I learned great...

I tried so hard but I couldn't make it work for me. After all these years living together and him having sequential partners I ended it. It was heartbreakingly sad but it's been a month and I've survived.

Thank you so much for your writing, I could have written some of your exact words. It helps me know what I'm feeling when I read what you've written.

So beautiful. So many times I thought I would be posting something similar.

I've only been able to skim your latest posts but I have to tell you a lot of it sounds familiar. Even though I have the independence thing down cold - perhaps even too independent - so many questions you pose resonate. I have proven to for years that I can take care of myself very well but I...

We've survived two days since his realization. Neither of us wants to break up. After lots of soul searching I agreed keep trying until our contract expires in July 2014. All this has been negatively impacting my performance at work, sapping all my energy. I asked and he agreed to delay...

I have a FL account and had been super active, until I started reading here LOL. I'm not going to share my FL name because I'm really appreciating that there is no cross over for me between the sites.

Wow thanks for writing. You are amazing and generous to your wife and her friend and bow to you! I don't have advice just being a cheerleader :D So many poly people are younger than I am and I thought that was how they took to it more easily. You guys got age and and you're making poly work...

Had a long talk with him this morning after I dreamed that a short blond woman was trying to break into the house. Haha the new girl is short and blond. During the talk we went over lots of stuff and I reminded him of the conversation when I told him I couldn’t watch him fall in love with...

@Spock thanks for sharing your story. I can understand that she would be upset if you hit on her sister or cheat on her - but I'm sure that you could have searched out other options. I was kind of you to refrain from other options as well for a while, it sounds like it was really really rough...

Roller coaster fun So Friday, when he had is date with the potential FWB. I had a spectacularly busy day, a good part of it spent trying to prevent someone from getting unjustly fired. I worked till 8pm, I really needed to catch up from all the lost poly obsession time. I had a backup plan in...

What not to do in response to NRE: he told me this morning that he did end up fucking the newest girl last night. He was extra affectionate, it felt intrusive to me in the moment. He told me he loved me and I patted his chest and said "that's nice" and walked off. I know that's not the right...

Taking action I was productive at work yesterday, ate well and exercised, it does help. Work busy today so I will be distracted. He has a date tonight with potential FWB and they've already had the safer sex talk. The next time I see him he could have already fucked someone else, or not. My...

I am unhappy in a relationship right now and I am probably making my partner somewhat unhappy. But I stay because I have hope that somehow things could change and we could be crazy happy again. I'm working hard to change my feelings and perceptions of his interest in other women. We have a lot...

Thanks FOL.

I feel completely devoid of any sense of play, safety or desire to have sex. Nothing feels fun, I can't imagine what might be fun. I can't concentrate, I go to work and obsess on this forum. Someone else, I might wonder if they are depressed. Theoretically my depression has been treated. But...

My boss got upset with me yesterday, because she is fighting so hard to maintain our department and on some level I'm accepting of it's demise. I didn't get it until I was lying sleepless after my conversation with him about formalizing his relationship with A. I thought fuck him, if he is not...

@WH this idea of a relationship being propped up - meaning that it stays upright when without the prop it would surely fall - is one of my poly fears. My partner has shown that he can stay in a relationship for years without doing the work to make it vibrant and heath, or without leaving if...

@WH Right now I'm the live-in partner and energy I'm talking about is the energy that is brought home, from outside the initial relationship. I feel like the object of someone else's turn on. I'm very social but very selective of what I bring "home" so the idea of this random person in my...

NRE brings fun to the existing relationship? Hello all. I've read here about something I don't quite get and would like your perspective, which might help me develop a new perspective. I understand that when one partner gets involved in a new relationship, or meets someone exciting to them...