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Annabel is correct. Kia didn't quite understand that my sister and her BF weren't into kink. I didn't exactly stand up and announce it at the party, which actually, maybe I should have done. :p Kia is new to the community, and new to experiences like this, in general, as well. It's really hard...

Thanks to everyone who commented. I'm an external thinker, so it definitely helps to hear others' input on the situation, as well as knowing I wasn't out there in reacting the way I did.

To update a bit, I reached out to Kia, and she is pretty horrified/mortified by the situation. I should have done this earlier, instead of trying to leave her out of it. (Lesson learned there.) I had said some things earlier in the night that made her think I had lost interest in playing, so she...

Yes, you are totally correct about that assessment. It's something he's just going to have to work on, which we talked about a lot yesterday. The party stress was from the mix of two totally vanilla people in a room full of kinky people, and wanting to make sure they felt like they fit in and...

Yes to all of those things. He knows he screwed up, big time, and he feels awful about it. I hate that this paints him as a terrible guy, because he really isn't. He just did something *incredibly* thoughtless and stupid. After discussing it more yesterday, it seems alcohol was more of a factor...

Yes, the party was in our home. I often struggle with feeling bad or wrong for whatever I'm feeling, on top of all the crap that comes with being hurt. It's also something I know about and work on, but I guess it leaks out a bit still. After more talking yesterday, I went ahead and opened a...

Thanks for all your advice/insight. I saw on another thread someone had posted a specific book that I'm going to check out. Agree, completely. It has been a lifelong struggle, and in a way it is unrelated to poly, or even relationships, at all. It's a personal battle that can easily be...

Despite having had open and polyamorous relationships for several years, I'm just now discovering this forum. I've been reading for 2 days straight! I'm in an odd situation where I don't really have anyone to talk to about it, and am hoping for some advice/input. My background-- my bf Bill and...