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I see. I wasn't trying to pry, but being vague makes things trickier to talk about ;) I think that polygamy sounds like an excellent topic of discussion.

Whoops! Sorry, I misread poly terms there. :P Yes, Polygamy is very illegal. I've never been cheated on luckily, but I have been the other woman and I have seen what that does. Why are your boyfriend and his wife still together if they're having affairs back and forth? When does two wrongs...

What makes polyamory illegal? Are you in the US? Also, not wanting a lot out of someone aside, you're putting expectations in an area of a relationship that varies a great deal. I worry you're lack of communication skills would make things unclear to a new partner what it is you're truly...

Let me get this straight...You're looking for another relationship along with the one involving a married man, who isn't telling his wife about his affair with you? I'm cringing at the train wreck to come! And if you're looking for a "filler" boyfriend to occupy your time when your affairing...

Ah, I see. Yes, I think the word "Puritan" or "Biblical" gets replaced with "Christian" because Puritan values were inspired by old fundamentalist views on parts of the Bible. Then again, some people get offended at the thought of ONE person in the relationship "running the house hold" when they...

When discussing/defending the Bible, it's hard especially when we bring in possible past translations. If you want to go down that road, then "sin" isn't actually an act or crime that separates you from God as it was translated from the Greek word, "hamartia" which means "missing the mark". Then...

The point I was making was exactly that Christianity isn't accurately measurable by looking at the bible, nor are Christians themselves. I was trying to say that the Bible should be looked at in a cultural/historical aspect because it has outdated philosophies, even surrounding marriage. Anyone...

It sounds to me that you're another individual who's hurting and feels that putting the blame on SOMETHING will make things better. You're not at fault here, nor is your ex, nor is polyamory. You both fell madly in love, made some SERIOUS decisions in the midst of all that emotionality (never...

"If a man lies with a male as with a women, both of them shall be put to death for their abominable deed; they have forfeited their lives." (Leviticus 20:13 NAB) "If a man commits adultery with another man's wife, both the man and the woman must be put to death." (Leviticus 20:10 NLT)...

That is tricky indeed. I myself haven't been through such a situation, as I'm an unpracticed polyamorist. However, from what little I know, I would say for you to remind yourself that polyamory isn't the criminal here. Really, there isn't one. You live a non-monogamous lifestyle because that...

Enchanted could have been helped with polyamory. It also would have driven home that the, "Happily ever after, love for only one" isn't the only relationship expectation one could have.

OH, the Christian marriage. When my eldest sister was getting married, the pastor handed her some handbook on marriage with essentially told her to obey the husband, yada yada. I used to be a hardcore christian as a teenager, but am now not religious at all (I'm pagan, in a non-deistic/theistic...

I'm seeing red flags waving. He sounds a lot like my douchey ex-boyfriend from before I was married. Anytime he thought I was flirting (thought, when I never did) with other guys, he would accuse me of cheating on him, right off the bat, and I would chase friends off to appease him. The fact...

That's understandable. My husband is uncomfortable with my being with guys, so I've agreed not to be with any guys until he's ready. In the meantime, he has some things he needs to deal with regarding himself, and that won't just benefit a poly situation, but it will greatly increase his quality...

True, though I've been reading some very sad and painful stories. They each have their own lessons to teach all of us, don't they?

Hehe, adopt away XD

Sounds to me all this jealousy is your own insecurity in yourself. Think of loving others in this way: how can a lifeguard save a drowning person, when they don't know how to swim? How can you love others, when you don't love yourself, first? It sounds cliche', but a wise Indian once told me...

I'm sorry this was such a terrible experience for you, but this doesn't mean you should give up on poly relationships if you really enjoy them. It wasn't polyamory's fault that this woman lied. A red flag is a quiet person who can't open up. If you find someone in your life whom you have to...

I'm going slow for my husband's sake, haha. I have a fellah of interest, whom my husband gets along well with, and who is also poly/married, and he, along with his wife, have been very supportive, informative, and loving to us. I'm sure forum can give me some great stories, information, and...

Hi! I'm Vermin, I'm married, and my husband and I are new to polyamory. We decided to be "open" a couple years back, but have been hesitant about moving forward with our polyamory (mostly because he still has jealousy stuff to work out, and I want to make sure we're BOTH ready before moving...