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this! i see a lot of cognitive dissonance in MFM/FMFs (and am sometimes guilty of it myself)

interesting. since this finds women are more likely to be in same-gender dyads, this might be useful info on FMFs? also interesting because this kinda goes against the idea that women have larger social networks, since they came to the conclusion that men prefer larger groups and then this one...

just reread and saw the toddlers part! okay so im reading that as up to 3yrs. interesting; I said something further up about language and motor skill differences in early brain development between male and female children. That could potentially affect early play styles. I'm not certain that...

huh! I'm not sure I agree with "women are more naturally attuned to organizing the social lives of family", mostly because i see so many contradictions of this behavior, and women are conditioned to be more family oriented from a young age. But would love if you linked the research here! I'd be...

I totally get that; my bad. when i said "women" are more communicative than men, I definitely slipped up and meant female vs male, mostly because these differences start in childhood and have to do with the way our brains develop (but like i mentioned these differences are way less prominent as...

I've been seeing stuff on this too! Some female animals even spontaneously abort their offspring (horses and lions are a great example) when a rival male takes over, but only if they haven't had a chance to "cover up" their pregnancy by having sex with the new guy in a certain time frame. I've...

One of us no longer in their 20s! Jo turned 30 recently, I guess I need to update my bio. I don't put exact ages in the (likely irrational) fear that someone trolling the internet will put 2+2 together. I invited his sister out to surprise him for the weekend, and I think I hiding Pea and I's...

Have literally thought of this. esp in kitchen table polyamory, I've noticed all seems well when everyone is getting their freak on regularly, so to speak. I could see this being a problem esp for older males in FMFs. I'm a super physical/sensual human tho (touch + talking is my love language)...

sorry I'm late to the party, but I love this discussion! I would say "women are more *communicative* than men". there is plenty of evidence this is the case; female children in general have higher test scores on verbal and written tasks and have a greater vocab as children; this trend weakens...

Sorry for the lateness! that's super interesting. I wonder if birds are more likely to be in Vs for some reason. Maybe it has something to do with sharing childcare duties.

Obviously, there are a ton of examples of polygamous males (especially in mammals), but I thought this article about the payoff of polyandry in sea turtles was interesting: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4393808/

I'm a career scientist, and all things science still fascinate me. I noticed today that there are three birds building a nest together on my balcony. Starting a funky thread for any articles or anecdotal evidence related to polyamory in nature 🌲🦅🐻🌴🐟🌊

I wish I could say all* of his actions say this. In this situation, yes. But he interacts with my family, and he encourages me to interact with certain people in his family. Just not the people who aren't okay with our relationship... is my conclusion? But there is no explanation of this, just a...

Hello! I've posted on here before but it's been awhile. Briefest background ever: I've been married to Joe for 5 years. He's a couple years older than me. When we started dating, we met and started hanging out with Pea, a guy 2 years younger than me. We're all still in our twenties. We've lived...

it's been awhile! everything is going well in my personal life/school/etc. As usual i've come on here to vent... Right now im struggling with comparing my relationship with Pea to monogamous relationships and their 'escalators'. i just spent 4 months away for an internship, and have been back...

thanks for the advice/words of wisdom :) it's good to remember that not everyone is a partner for life. P is definitely more laid back, it's part of why i like him so much. he keeps verbally committing to a future with me, and for now our values, where want to live, etc all align. i care about...

regarding the post above: i hope one day these things dont even bother me, but im far from being there and welcome any advice from people in similar situations

i have been working from home lately and am waiting on some career-related news, which has me a bit on edge. i dont love* being on my computer all the time; while the increased flexibility is nice, that novelty wore off after the second week of running command lines until i feel like pulling my...

As someone who has had to go with the flow regarding friends and fam, when it comes to the partner I started dating after my husband, I would give the advice of "pick your battles." Most likely, your friend didn't consider that what they asked would upset you. So how are you supposed to even...

I talked to P before he left. Things feel a bit better. I focused on our relationship and left his future plans out... that's for him to deal with and I'm not his mom. We agreed to hang out once a week, no matter what.* Lately, with moving and schedules changing, me putting in extra hours in the...