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Without warning, she left me last night, the only explanation was that we are “sexually and romantically incompatible”. And I’m broken. As an old-soul 37-year-old with enough heartbreaks to know the story, this has really shaken me. If I could tell you what light and wonder I saw in her we’d be...

Just a brief update folks. We’ve done a lot more talking about it and things are much more clear now. Sure enough, it was a simple misunderstanding, but a great opportunity for a heart check for me. Our next step was to share our Relationship Anarchy needs, wants, preferences and...

“Could you be trying to diminish these other people she has sex with in your mind by associating them with addiction? Would it make it easier for you if you saw her other partners just as people she is usingfor sex rather than sharing sex with because that's what she, and they, simply want to be...

She’s past the first year. Besides, 12 step programs have their rules, and members have to decide for themselves whether to hold to them or not. What she comes up with in that regard has nothing to do with me. As for figuring out what I want, that’s why I’m here speaking to all of you and not...

I can’t nor would it be helpful for me to try and figure out if she “should” be dating. That’s up to her. I am not a doctor. This is simply a belief based on my understanding of how addiction works as the opposite of connection. Having five partners, none of whom are a love-based relationship...

More has come to light. She is in recovery for marijuana and MDMA, and it is my belief that these other connections, which are not based on love, represent an unidentified addiction to sex. My questions now are: - how to broach the subject with her if this is a blind spot. - how long I am...

In the past I had not identified as polyamorous. It was hard to find connection and understanding because although I am very, very open, this has scared away some, and others, well, maybe I am just often described as very complex and unusual, for better or worse. As for someone having to be...

It is something she has told me, and in the future, if she does find partners who she connects with on a heart level, that would bring me so much joy.

Oh my God thank you. THANK YOU! These are amazing resources. I especially like the one about letting myself feel the jealousy, and then feel what’s UNDER the jealousy. I’m realizing that it comes down to this; I’ve been lonely for a long time. Most of my life. It’s been easy to get dates and...

Thank you, I really appreciate your insights. It’s not ideal for sure. I’d hoped to explore polyamory with a partner who was also completely unattached to begin with, knowing we’d head that direction once our connection was super solid. This is me coming into her life and established dynamic...

And to add: I am loving her simply by sticking with this I still have so much to learn about love, and it will never be comfortable to have my edges expanded I choose this change

M Here’s to more communication and less assumptions! This is a great area for my growth. Thank you for sharing.

I’m in my first poly relationship. She is my only partner, and she has a few others. This has been challenging for me, and so I’ve written myself reminders to level set for myself and to help me not freak out. I would love if some more experienced folks could weigh in and provide more tips...

Hello sweet people, I had a confusing experience this weekend and would love some support and guidance. I identify as poly with no current partners, and have been looking for similar. I met someone a month ago who called themselves “unpartnered poly”, which I interpreted as being in my same...